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*hinachik
writes:I don't know what to think? I met this guy online a few months ago and thought we hit it off. For the first month, we just texted and got to know each other and then met up and had a few dates. We then slept together and then things started to get weird- he texted less and then he suddenly got called away on traning for 3 weeks to Germany as he is in the RAF. He said he still wanted to see me when he got back so I am waiting.However last night I saw he had logged into the dating site where we met. Is it what I think it is? Is he dumping me and looking for someone else? Has he changed his mind? I've not heard from him for a few days now and don't know what to think!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 June 2010):
Oh dear. I think you've been used. You contacted each other for about a month, then had sex after a few dates and he's not so bothered anymore. I think you've been used. Especially if he's logged back into that site as well. I know the others say contact him, but I would let him come to you now. You've made contact and he's not spoken back. If he still doesn't, then you know you've been used.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): 1. Texting you less.
2. Logging into the dating site.
Does not sound like very promising. I wouldn't write him off completely just yet, but I would not fall too hard just yet if I were you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): I think you need to find out from him if you were actually IN A RELATIONSHIP to begin with. Because just from what you wrote it doesn't really seem that you were.
So I would say talk to him & find out.
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reader, busy04  +, writes (20 June 2010):
 It's a little difficult to answer this because at no point did you indicate that you were "in a relationship" with this guy. A few dates, texting, being intimate, etc. doesn't equal a relationship. Especially if you both haven't committed to it. From what you wrote it just seems that there isn't a relationship, just a fling (mainly for him...I'm not trying to be harsh about it at all)
The best way to go here, is to contact him and ask him about it. Ask him what's up, because if you thought one thing & he thought another...well then, you need to know so you can really move on. You should at least have an understanding.
Hope I helped in some way :)
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