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writes:Recently, my fiance and me went to his bestfriends moms house to swim. My fiance finally got in the pool and started dunking his bestfriends mom. She was wrapping her legs around him as if he was picking her up underwater. Their privates were so touching. I was upset cause he would lift her out the water and hold her for a few moments with either her butt or her privates in his face. I told him it bothered me (pulled him 2 the side) he said he found nothing wrong with it and I was being ridiculous and stupid and should just let it go. I did for that night. Now, he's saying there is nothing wrong with JuSt him and her laying in bed watching a movie.He still has his ex-girlfriend on his personal web page. I'd have no prob if they weren't writing how you are you when are you coming to see me again I love you messages. I've asked him to delete her, he said he would but he did not. What should I do? Also, should I worry about him and his best friends mom?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you guys so much! I know it would be best to leave soon. he loves me. Unfortunately, I feel stuck cause he says "oh if u leave I will die, U are my life". it makes me feel bad cause honestly I know I will regret it if I marry him b/c he says "he doesn't have to tell me sh*% and I am not his kid" whn I ask simple questions like was tht ur mom u were tlking to and he does things he knows bothers me and I don't want him to do anything foolish if I go.
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reader, littlesuziepie +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Hi. Everyone agrees with you. That is weird that his friends mom was totally fine with him handling her that way. They probably have had sex already. Just break it off.
Don't question your feelings. If something makes you feel uncomfortably then it does. If he can't be sensitive for your feelings then what kind of man is he? Just know it will get worse and harder for you the longer you allow him to get away with this un acceptable behavior.
He sounds like a real head game. Don't play. Be smart and make sure your happy with life not worried. Uncomfortable and unsure. That's no way to live or let someone make you feel.
Good luck be strong.
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reader, chloe71z +, writes (16 August 2008):
 I would deffinetly be getting mad. YOu have every right to be angry with that. He is disrespecting you when he puts his privates on another womans privates. his bestfriends mom should have felt uncomfortable with him doing that and should have let him know not to do that. watching a movie in the living room is one thing but lying in bed together watching a movie or not is a NO NO, and should not be tollerated. Tell if if the notes fromhim and his girlfriend dont stop and the flirting as if he was single dont stop then kick his A$$ to the kirb.Then go and find you a man who will love you for who you are and treat you like a lady and respect you no matter where you are.
God Bless and Take Care
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): Sorry to say this, but as as an engaged man myself, this is unacceptable behavior. When you are engaged, you don't put anyone's genitals next to your face, and you don't have your ex on your web page and talk about "I love you." This should end. It sounds like he's afraid of marrying. If my fiancee wanted to lay in bed to watch a movie with her friends dad, I would say, "then you can sleep there tonight." You two should work this out as soon as possible, and if he won't change, then I'm afraid to say he will probably end up cheating. Best of luck to you.
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