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writes: Ok ive been with this guy for 1yr and 5mo.who is being distant b/c we have total different work schedules it was'nt always like that, because he would work on cars in front of his house( his house that we shared) or at the customers house. 5months ago him and his brother opened an auto shop so we dont see each other because i work nights. but he acts like he so tired throught out the week that i see him like twice a week now.is he cheating or im i insecure??? please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2007): I don't think he's cheating and I don't think you're insecure.
I always get a bit confused when I read these kind of questions. I mean, surely you have talked about this situation with your boyfriend, told him he seems distant, explained whats wrong in your head. Suggested ways of improving the relationship? That is how you fix a relationship problem.... ?
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reader, Lilly223  +, writes (7 January 2007):
 I wouldn't read anything in to the fact that he is tired. After all, working in new business is time consuming, and stressful. He probably IS working very hard. In addition, he is not as availible to you as he once was. It sounds to me like you are just missing him very much, and I don't blame you. You would be better off supporting him in his endeavors, and trying to make as much time for him when he is availible as possible. If it means changing jobs, or scheduling time together so be it.
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reader, DocSilverback +, writes (7 January 2007):
 Give him the benefit of the doubt. You are used to seeing him because of the location in which he was working previous. Unless you have a valid reason for him cheating, I wouldn't even bring it up. Working on cars is hard work. And that is a valid reason for being tired. Don't give up on him when he is trying to better the relationship financially. Maybe you should try to find a job during the day hours in order for you to enjoy each others company when 5:00 rolls around. Good luck.
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