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anonymous
writes:Do you think i should leave my b/f of 4 yrs and father to my son?A couple of times now i have found phone numbers which turns out to be other women. The first time i forgave him and now its happened again. Hes saying he hasnt done anything with these women and they both have said the same when i have confronted them, but to me texting seems just as bad as cheating.What do you think should i forgive again or walk?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): The woman knew about me asking him 'if he was there with her'this seemed odd to me. I do believe it is sexual in nature as i've been with him 4 yrs and he has no female friends plus hes a builder so he doesnt have female work friends. If it is a simple friendship why hide it? I honestly dont think anything physical has happened but i cant help thinking it was on the agenda!
i suppose i am trying to justify my reason for walking from the relationship i just needed advice on how others would handle the situation as my emotions are running high.
Your advice is appreciated thanks
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reader, rcn  +, writes (3 October 2007):
 Leaving someone is completely up to you. It's OK to ask a question about the situation, what different opinions may be, but to ask if you should or shouldn't leave, you're trying to justify your decision had relieving yourself of the responsibility by what someone who doesn't know you says.
I think it's OK to have women friends. Most of my friends are. It doesn't mean I'm doing anything sexual with them. I might get messages saying hi, and I return doing the same.
The question comes in if the text messages are appropriate in nature, non threatening to your relationship. You do have a son to consider as well, but all though a child is involved, that doesn't mean you have to accept bad behavior that violates the relationship you have. You still deserve happiness.
If you're happy your son has a higher chance of being happy. The more stress, anger, arguments that take place in his environment, the more he's going to pick up on that behavior and possibly imitate it in future relationships.
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reader, drastic knowledge +, writes (3 October 2007):
 well every one has there own point of view of cheating and i am not going to value my opion to that as it is your choice,
but however if it isnt sexual talk than i think you need to calm down with the walking away.
maybe take a break intill he can show you your the only woman in hes life that is special to him.
but if there just friends i say your over reacting unless they are planning to have sex or something wrong behind your back
but o do wish you the best of luck
if he is sexual in these texts or what not with other woman leave its just going to turn into the real thing
if hes just friendly with female friends he has and regular texts than i say calm down and try and deal with it much as possible as you cant cut every woman out hes life long as its no disrespect to you
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