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writes:I met this guy 1.5 years ago, he was on a dating site and we wrote to each other. He is very well off and has his own buisness. We ended up living together after only 4 months of getting to know each other. (which is very unsual for me to do this) I am totaly dependent on this guy now. Recently he has been away on buisness and he says he was going for a couple of weeks but it has turned into 4 months, this has happened before on his buisness trips.2 weeks has turned into 3 months. He does'nt send me much money but he does pay the rent for our accommodation(which is a lot of money)and all the bills, and tells me he misses me. I am in constant contact with him every night via the computer but still have niggly doubts about why he has to be away so long.Is he being honest to me. I am very confused. I have two kids, 19 and 15 and they would be devestated if he were dishonest to us. I like to think I trust him as we do speak each night on the net, but my family are all telling me differently, what do you think??? please help???
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): It sounds like he's living two lives ask for a phone numberWhere you can contact him ask questions see where he's at investigate
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reader, Psyche  +, writes (20 February 2007):
I think you are lying to yourself. If he does care about you, then he is a terrible boyfriend. But I suspect that he has moved on and is too weak to tell you.
As far as it seems, you don't have a relationship - he is your landlord.
Sorry but the reality is it is time to pack up and move on.
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reader, Precious Diamond +, writes (20 February 2007):
Precious Diamond is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do know where he is staying and yes I do talk to him regularly on the phone. Also on Skype and the webcam. I did suggest going over with him when he was going away (he is in Europe) and he told me he was meeting with clients and there wouldnt be room in his car for me (he has a 2 seater car) so I agreed to stay at home. He does seem very loving and caring when we chat but he keeps telling me that he doesnt have enough money to come home, that is what he is doing away, generating buisness. We missed Christmas together and he never sent me a card or a prezzie as he said things were 'tight' for him and christmas is just another day to him anyway. My boys missed him this year. For Valentines day I never got a card etc and again he said he doesnt believe in it and I didnt even speak to him online that night, he fell asleep. Yes I do know him better than my family and would like to think he is being faithful and honest but I cant help thinking what everyone is saying to me. We have to move out our rented accommodation in 8 weeks time and I so worried that he just doesnt appear to move house with us. Although he ASSURES me he will def be home next week or the week after. As money is slowly coming in now. I am getting a bit worried to say the least. I want to believe him, am I just being taken for a mug. Please help me, I need some opinions on this problem I have. What do you think???
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reader, luvme247 +, writes (20 February 2007):
 Do you talk to him over the phone ever when he is gone? Being in a relationship & talking only through email for 4 months seems kind of odd. You would think that he would want to talk to you being gone that long. Do you know where he is staying when he was gone, or does he seem to hide it from you? Have you ever asked to join him for a week or so while he is gone? I think that might be a good idea so you don't have all the worries. It is hard to know without being in your shoes. It does seem kind of fishy though.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (20 February 2007):
 If you are in constant touch with him I really don't think you have anything to worry about here. If he didn't have any intentions of coming back or if he was cheating on you I don't think he would continue with his responsibilities to you. The man is working hard to keep you in the manner you are accustomed. Be patient with him and give him the benefit of the doubt.
You know him better than your family and if he talks to you every night then I'd say that was commitment, wouldn't you?
Eve
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