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writes:I have been with my husband for 13 years. He has 3 kids by 3 different women - 2 of these children were born when he had just graduated from high school. the other child was born 2 years before I met him. He and I tried having a child but we weren't successful. I was pregnant once but miscarried. We had also consulted a doctor for help but to no avail. He keeps bringing up the topic of my future without kids. My only blood relative is my mom who is 83 years old. It really bothers me the way he constantly keeps reminding me - when he mentions it, it's not like he says, 'I know that we've tried but things didn't work out'. He says it like this was my choice. Once I mentioned that I would like to adopt and he quickly dismissed the idea. I think he's being really selfish and doesn't have any regard for my desires. Please advise. Thx Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciao +, writes (27 May 2012):
Ciao is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is the husband. My wife never tells the full story. To begin with, She has 3 other living blood siblings.
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reader, Ciao +, writes (16 April 2011):
Ciao is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses Mamabear and Anonymous. I really appreciate it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): wow, what a selfish jerk he is! i can't believe how insensitive and horrid that is!! not being able to have children is a heartbreaking thing for many women...i just can't believe that he is rubbing it in your face!
i agree completely with MamaBear--sounds like something else is up. get help/couselling/etc. all the best!
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (28 March 2011):
Seriously ask yourself if you need this guy in your life! He has three children, and is he a good father to them, does he support them? If so, he could involve you in their lives and you could also enjoy them. You do not have to be a blood kin to enjoy a child. His first two must be pushing adulthood and maybe having their own families. You all could be enjoying these relationships. Something is amiss here and I would need more info on the relationships with his children before I can give any better suggestions. Good luck. But, please do not let this guy push hurtful buttons in your life.
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