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writes:Hey, guys. Before I begin, I would just like to start out by saying that my question/situation isn't about a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend, it's about my relationship with my friends. I really only have 2 people in my life that I can call true "friends" and I love them with all my heart. One is a guy and and the other is a girl and they have been dating for about 3 years. Let's call them "Jack and Jill". Normally I am very close to them, but lately I've been feeling a little under-appreciated by Jill. This upsets me because she's one of the only friends I have and throughout our entire friendship I've been nothing but kind and supportive towards her. Whenever she's feeling upset, I always talk to her and try to make her feel better but I never get a thank you and I never feel like I can come to her with my problems. And now, all of the sudden, she's acting all best-friendy with this new random girl and talking about her and telling her stuff like "ohh thank you sooo much for talking to me when I was upset" and stuff like that. I mean, maybe I'm overreacting, but I kinda feel like this new person is just swooping down out of nowhere and taking my spot. So I guess my question is: how do I get this new girl out of the picture and get my friend to care about me again? Reply to this Question
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reader, thomas1214  +, writes (28 March 2011):
i stopped reading at the i always talk to her and try to make her feel better part. OK so how can i explain this. you were a void for her when she felt down in a certain way what guy was there to cheer her up? you. you were being the "nice guy" and as the saying goes nice guys finish last because they are door mats you let her step all over you and bring her problems to you. you can do it once in awhile by helping with problems but not all the time. sometimes they have to figure out these problems. also maybe the other problem is you like her? no? it sounds like it. now one last thing you will never be able to make her "care" about you more then her other friend. its up to her.
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