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writes:So I had a week of holiday and yesterday (during holiday), as I stayed in the city, I went to work where we had a professional training for 2 hours. So I got to the cafeteria where I met most of the colleagues and it happened to show up a fellow colleague I like A LOT. (a previous post on him and our interactions: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/in-love-with-an-older-fellow-colleague-how.html). While we were on the line, a female colleague said hi to me, asked how holidays were and hugged me. The girl has a BIG problem with herpes and yesterday she was just "blossoming". So C.(the guy I like) asked if she has tried Aciclovir and another cream. She answered she has, but with no effect. He then said: "Maybe you should consider growing a moustache instead" She said nothing but I was like WTF, how can you be so mean etc. He replied with a smile of satisfaction: "I can be very mean, you should know". THE THING about this guy is that he always, but always, has impecable manners, he dresses perfectly, always neat and ......perfect (and I'm not saying this because I like him). So my best guess is that he did it to cause a reaction, not to actually insult that girl. What do you think?He then sat at our table (which he doesn't usually do), right next to me, saying interesting stuff about work and even made a few jokes.Am I wrong to think he might be into me?[Mod note: flag should be Spain]
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (14 January 2012):
 This is where I raise my hand and ask for the floor.
Some of us people of Spanish descent have a sense of humour that you of non-Spanish descent find offensive, but it is not meant to be, and we all understand it is not to be taken seriously. The man simply meant that she will have to conceal her herpes some way, since aciclovir doesn't work. If this is bad manners, let me tell you that Spaniards have it worse than anyone else in the Spanish speaking world. You'd think they are insulting each other but they aren't. The woman with herpes said nothing, right? Did she seem offended at all? Did she even bat an eye? Because it was not meant as an insult, and she knows.
I disagree with Tisha. It is not a mask. He simply behaves in a professional manner when he's on the job. I'm sure he doesn't even curse at the workplace.
Poster, I am sure he noticed your reaction and that was why he said that "you should know" he's not perfect. I believe he is not into you. Sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): I think you probably are very dedicated to your learning and that does not allow much time to get out there and date. I'm sure these interactions with the doctor make your week and provide something exciting to examine, but at the end of the day, they don't really add up to anything. That's no replacement for a real love life or love interest. When you find a guy who really does like you, you'll know it. He won't be able to stay away from you. That's how you know you are on someone's mind alot. This doctor doesn't want you to know anything about him and doesn't seem to want to know anything about you. So in a month's time he sat next to you at a table and made jokes and talked about his work. I'd take that as a very strong sign that this is not a mutual pining away for each other connection.You can believe what you want but remind yourself every day when you go home you are still empty handed with no dates, no real conversations, no progression with this man.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (13 January 2012):
 I read your other question and this one. I don't see that he's into you, honestly. You did say in his other question that you've never heard him being rude to anyone. Would you be happy if someone suggested you grow a mustache? Is that a polite and courteous thing to say? Wouldn't you be just the tiniest bit insulted?
I think he's letting his mask of 'perfect gentleman' slip and allowing whatever you call his sense of humor out once in a while. Insulting a colleague and cracking jokes isn't enough of a convincer to me. The guy is 51, and presumably would know how to approach a woman he's interested in? This sounds more like high school.
I would wait for more definitive proof that he likes you before making that judgement just yet. He doesn't DISlike you, I think you can safely say. Anything beyond that is a stretch, from what you've presented so far.
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