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writes: I've known this guy for about a year now. He's 11 years older than I am, married, and I'm confused about his intentions.I always made sure that we only interacted at work. I'm not going to deny that there is an attraction there, but I'm not that kind of girl. I would rather set boundaries than get into something that could seriously hurt his wife. Recently however, he received my mobile number and he has been texting me quite a lot.Now I'm confused. Is he asking me to coffee because he's being 'nice', or is he asking me on a date? I'm scared to turn him down in case he's just being friendly, and I'm scared to accept in case I'm right and he wants something more out of this. I know this isn't a serious problem or anything, but I would really appreciate any advice you guys could give! Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): This is the original poster. Thanks heaps everyone. You're right, there is something fishy about this. I'm not even going to go near that territory.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): be very careful
you sound like me 7 months ago.
I even posted a similar question, even used the phrase "im not that kind of girl"
Seven months later and we are engaged in a sexual affair.
Trust me honey one thing leads to another whether u say it will at the begining or not.
PLEASE DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM HIM
i know u wont listen to me because all the answers that i received when i asked the question last year were the same.
Did i read them and tell myself i would listen- yes.
when in that sitation did i listen- no.
Trust me, you sound exactly like me.
Im not that kind of girl either.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (21 September 2008):
 If it's coffee while on break at work, that's one thing. If it's after hours, that's something else. The fact he's texting you leads me to believe he wants more. Men usually have other ideas or at least the thought crosses their minds. You already admit there is an attraction so you also have the thought in the back of your mind. It's dangerous ground.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (21 September 2008):
 Of course he's inviting you to coffee for other reasons, he's not just looking for a chat about work lol
You might not be 'that kind of girl' but he's somehow got the impression you are.
Be cautious. I smell a rat. Dont you?
C xxxxx
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