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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Of course it's cheating, but since your boyfriend does not think it's cheating. I say you go on dates with other guys.
Only then will he know how it feels.
Two wrongs don't make a right but in this case, a piece of his own medicine won't hurt.
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reader, topazadam  +, writes (16 May 2010):
It depends what you mean by date? Is it dinner with the intention of sex afterward? It's all about the intentions man, if you meet with a friend, have dinner, drinks and leave it at that its ok. but as soon as you start wanting to cheat, and having the intentions to cheat - it's a bad a cheating itself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): I guess I see things differently here. If you two are not engaged and have not both agreed to see each other exclusively, both of you are still free to date other people. I would actually encourage both of you to see other people to determine if you two want to be together eventually in marriage. It seems so strange to me sometimes that two people will immediately confine themselves to only seeing each other. I think this is one reason that so many marriages fail later on. Both people never had the opportunity to date enough other people before marriage.
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reader, Kadaj +, writes (16 May 2010):
When in a relationship, you should focus primarily on your partner, instead of trying to build multiple relationships with a bunch of partners. He's definitely cheating. Ditch him if he even thinks about dating other girls, because he's not focussing his attention on you and tending to your needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): Hmm it'd not cheating as such. More like just having a drink or dinner with the opposite sex. BUT if you are not happy about him dating then you need to tell him straight that this is not acceptable! It's not acceptable to go on dates with other women while in a relationship. Maybe he could invite you along with him. Or maybe you should ask him exactly what goes on. Does he kiss or sleep with these women or is it just the thought of him being around another female that bothers you?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Ask him why it is considered not cheating ?
He may think that cheating is only about a having sex with another person.
When you are in a relationship, your dating days are over.
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reader, rambini +, writes (16 May 2010):
 of course it is cheating!! and it is effectively saying that while he is with you he is still looking for something better. it is cheating and it is insulting!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): Of course it is cheating!!! Why would your bf want to take another woman out on a date besides YOU. I wonder what your bf would think if you started dating other guys.
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (16 May 2010):
 Absolutely!!!!!!!!!!............unless he's going on a date with YOU! why does he need to date other women? If he is bored or just wants to go out then he can take up a hobby or go out with you or his guy friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): It is cheating...I can't even begin to comprehend how that is not cheating.
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