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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes: I am not a bad person. Even though we weren't in a relationship I had sex with someone I cared about and I got an std. It was my first time. I don't blame him for what happened because he didn't know and he had the decency to tell me when he found out he had it. I went to my family doctor and I got treatment. I regret the whole thing because now I am with someone I really like who I have fallen very hard for. I have known him for years but he never paid attention to me before. I never knew who his mother was before but I have know her for years too. Lucky me his mom works in the doctor's office. After he took me to meet his mom she was nice to me like she always was but later she went in to my medical records and confronted me about having an std in front of my boyfriend. She wasn't even there the day I went. I couldn't believe it. I already told him that I wasn't a virgin and I didn't feel like I had to tell him that especially because it has been taken care of. As for her it's none of her business. The next thing you know I was crying and I called her a nosy b word and I went home. He came over later and he told me that she was sorry so I said she was a coward and that if she wanted to say she was sorry to say it to my face. He got mad and left. I don't want to call him first. I want him to call me. I really like him. Should I let him call me or should I call him? It's against the law for her to blab about my medical records and should I call the doctor's office and get her in trouble? My feelings are really hurt by this and I am extremely embarrassed. I don't know exactly what happened. Maybe she was talking about me at work and someone down there mentioned what I had been in there for last. Maybe she was just being nosey. I feel so stupid because I thought medical records were confidential. I should have told him but his mom should not have done that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): write an email. first u should apologise for being so rude to his mother. explain how hurt u felt and how u felt it was an invasion of ur privacy. admit that u only behaved like that because u caught u off ur guard with some very humiliating and shameful history that was ur business alone. u shud also explain how u got the std,because if not hes going to make an unfair judgment of u as a person by thinking u are promiscuous/ careless.then tell him that ur mother should be more careful to reveal such medical details because she has signed a contract to remain silent and that sort of thing could made her loose her job and credibility in the working field.tell him that u will not make any complaints against her because u feel really strongly towards him and ure willing to forgive her for her mistake (tell him that ure sure she was only looking out for him).im sure he will respond to ur email. if not then forget it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2010): "Should I let him call me or should I call him?"Hey, why so much ego if you really love the other person?If I were you, I would call and tell: "I thought medical records were confidential and your mom should not have done that."But you can't call your bf's mom a nosy b and not expect consequences. You made a mistake by trashing the other person rather than giving your logic.Its your bf's call now...whether you will support you or not. You have done your deeds.
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