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writes:ok... I'm goin out with this guy but my friend doesn't like him. I have gone out with him before but he cheated on me. All im doing is givin him a second chance. Am i doing the right thing by going out with him??????
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (1 December 2007):
 He's a cheater and your friends don't like him, the guy doesn't sound like a very good boyfriend in my opinion, your friends probably see that and that's probably why they dont like him.
If I were you I'd dump him, I wouldn't give a cheater a second chance.
But that's just me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): It is possible for people to change - so hopefully this time he won't cheat on you. Unfortunately you won't beable to tell whether he has changed until you try it again...and its really nice of you to give him this chance!
Thats unfortunate that your friend doesn't like him. You could try telling her how you feel about him and try to make her understand, but you won't beable to make her like him. Do respect your friend's opinions as she does have a right to say what she feels.
If she still can't stand him then meet up with them separately - but hopefully you'll have some kind of comprimise!!
And well - what you do is your choice in the end,this is just advice not instructions, but good luck anyway!
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reader, fairygurl  +, writes (1 December 2007):
no u shouldnt have to deal with boys cheating on you at your age hun. go find someone who deserves u!!
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (1 December 2007):
 Honestly, i have been in the same situation. By you giving him another chance, it means you stil have faith that this can work. I think everyone deserves second chances. Let this be the chance he proves to you he can do better. People deserve one last chance. If it doesnt work out then honey, maybe he isnt the one because when people make mistakes they regret, they never make the same mistakes twice. if he cares for you, he wont do it again. Dont let your guard down though. Prove to him you wont accept his foolish actions again. Good luck!
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reader, Happy to help :)  +, writes (1 December 2007):
 Hello :)
If you really love this boy and feel that it is the right thing to do to give him a second chance then i think it is right, i think your friend should accept that and i think that she should stick by you and help you, she is just trying to protect you from getting hurt as he has cheated on you before. My friend has had someone cheat on her before and she gave him a second chance, i don't like the boy but i am just going to stick by her throughout it and i will always be here for her. If this guy is nasty or anything to your friend then i think that your friends come first over any boy. But talk to your friend and ask her to try and accept it, tell her that she does not have to like the boy, but tell her to try and be there for you and not to put him down in front of you. So give it a go and see what happens.
Feel free to message me back to tell me what happened and if you need any extra help I will be here.
Hope i helped you
Good luck :)
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