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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2007): tell me about it!!! the worlds gone nuts!
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reader, Wildlife dude  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 I've surfed the web, listed myself with personals for years but never met anyone that I'd consider a potential mate. It was just something I did to keep from feeling lonely and it filled up time in my life, gave me something to look forward to. But I met my g/f at church. After years of hanging out in bars, wishing some woman would have the nerve to come up to me and talk, she walked right up to me and told me I played (guitar) beautifully. I went weak in the knees and I haven't let her out of my sight ever since.
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (2 August 2007):
I for one think you have to have an enormous amount of trust in the human race to go dating on the internet. I no doubt that some sites are good but you can only ever go by what people choose to say about themselves until you actually meet them in the flesh so to say. Usually you have swapped numbers, addresses, and know an awful lot about each other for the other person to make things difficult if things don't work out to their satisfaction.
I would have thought you would have been much better off joining some clubs or societies that share any hobby or interest. A political or a religious group where you can meet socially like minded people.
Even if you are not lucky here in finding a partner you will automatically make a bunch of really good friends that have a like minded interest automatically as a bi-product of your searching.
I know that personally I would sooner trust my instincts in a singles club or with a dating agency than I would on line but that is me I suppose.
The advantage of internet dating is it's ease and convienience - but then again isn't the right person worth making that good bit of effort to find?
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reader, autumnshire  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 Hello hello,
I don't think the whole world is online :P I certainly hope not. I met a guy off the internet (MySpace) last year, and he was great etc. etc. until he cheated on and abused me... needless to say I've had enough of the internet for a while (of course I never actually signed up to MySpace to find someone to date; it just sorta happened!!).
I've spoken to loads of guys on the internet, willing to meet or whatever, so that's obviously possible, but really, I have faith that there are "real world" people out there; nobody else i know has met any of their boyfriends on the internet so I know it does happen in realy life!!!
So, I don't know what you are wanting to do: are you wanting to try dating online? Like Midge says, if you choose to, do it in a way that makes you comfortable! I know a few people who have fallen prey to online dating agencies and have been lied to, disappointed and/or used! You could give it a shot, if you like; you have nothing to lose really - remember when it's on the internet as long as you don't give anything personal away that you don't want people knowing, it's all in your control!!
But, I'm sure there are people in the real world, too :-) Sometimes it's good to just sit back and not try to find anyone; it often happens when you least expect.
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reader, Midge +, writes (2 August 2007):
 Well I have to say that I met my boyfriend on the internet 9 years ago and we are still together.
I dont think there is any harm in meeting people on the net so long as you do it in a safe manner.
Our first meeting was in a very open bar and we later went to have dinner together. My parents were given all of his details before we met up so that in the event that anything happened, they knew who I was with etc.
There are a lot of online dating agencies and also a lot of chat rooms. Find one that you are comfortable with.
We never met through either a dating agency or chat room, rather by accident on a forum.
Sometimes you just need that little kick up the pants to get you started. Dont worry if you cant find anyone in "the real world", because they are probably all sitting glued to their computers.
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