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writes:Is every relationship different?? and when I say that I mean on how quickly things move or how slowly??I got a promotion at work back in September and therefore moved departments which is where I met this guy (whom I dont actually work alongside or have to even see at work, but he's near by) well I didnt talk to him much to begin with but then one day I had to go into the office space where he works and I happened to recognise what he was listening to which is something rather rare that many people around here would be clueless about and that got us talking more. Come late November and December I happened to be out every weekend and Id see him out and we would end up making out...he tried taking me home but I would never go because Im not like that.Anyways things progressed again and I finally went to his house on a Thursday night (5th January,no drink involved) and stayed the night (no sex) as we had merely just stayed up talking all night and it was really nice. Well from then I stayed at my own (parents) house for the friday and saturday then back to his on sunday and well Ive been there since.We got to know each other better, talked about what we want and we both happened to be in the exact same situation to begin with (which was actually wanting to be with someone else) but through time realised we're actually perfect for each other and I fell in love.I moved in with him for proper around the end of February, beginning of March because I was always there anyway. I spent every night there and Id go home from work to him and I showered there and even did some laundry and I had a key so he was like know what move in so I did.I cant wait to spend the rest of my life with this guy and he has already openly told me he will marry me and have kids with me.However some people keep having a go and saying its to fast and that it most definately wont work because we're moving to fast and that we're being unrealistic and some are being quite nasty. My cousin being one of them but with her I think she may be jealous because she always said that she was better than me and that she would have a better job and be married with kids before me even though she is 2 years younger and well she does have a bf but thats it.Anyways Id love some opinions on this. I personally dont feel like its fast....I was with my ex bf for just over 3 years and at no point did I ever feel the way for him the way I do with my current bf and also at no point did I feel I could live with my ex or spend as much time with him and not kill him...being with my current guy feels right.
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reader, Shadow Rose  +, writes (10 April 2012):
 To quote my favorite dinosaur from land before time... "Yup! Yup! Yup!"
All relationships are different, and yours is not going to be exactly the same as all the others.
All I advise is to make good decisions with this, since sometimes going too fast can lead to bad decisions, but if you've got a level head, then it's just fine.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and we both already know that we are meant to be, we plan on getting married, we've talked about plans for the future, our opinions on kids, everything. And some may think it's too fast, but to us it's the right speed, and we're being level-headed. (At least I am. Doesn't the woman always stay level-headed in the relationship? I'M KIDDING btw. Totally making a joke here)
But yeah, if you feel it's right, and you're thinking right, then it's fine :)
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