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writes:Alright, Well im 16 and I know for a fact that im attracted to older men, but theres nothing I can really do about it at this time in my life. I am still attracted to guys my own age, in fact, I have a boyfriend that I have been seeing since september. The only problem is that I still have feelinggs for an old teacher that I have liked since I was about 12.You see, this teacher is not very attractive. He is pretty much bald and what hair he has is forming a shade of grey. No other students i've ever known flirt with him or even give him a second glance. I, on the other hand, find it difficult to look at anyone but him. He is one of the nicest guys I ever met and I swear I liked him the minute I stepped foot into his classroom. I know my feelings will fade when I leave the school ditrict, but it will be some time before I find someone like him. Right now, ive found it helpful to do a little safe flirting with him when I get a chance to. I know that he's not mr. popular with the students and he likes the attention I give him. I also try to do nice things for him like I made him a cd that has some 90's songs i thought he'd like. Plus, about every other month I go and see how he has been holding up. Back to the point, I have been doing some safe flirting with this teacher because I can't really bring myself to completely ignore him and my feelings (even if they are only temporary.) Everytime I talk to him, I feel like anything is possible and that everything he's putting me through is worth it. To sum up my question, I just want to know if im in the wrong to safely flrt with him even though I know it won't go anywhere? I love the feeling I get when I talk to him and walking away from that would deffinetely NOT make things better for me. My friends have told me to dump my boyfriend if I like my teacher, but I dont see how that could make things better. I love having my boyfriend around because he is one of the only people who can take my mind away from mr._______. I just want to find a healthy balence between liking my old teacher and keeping up with my boy friend. Is flirting with my old teacher so bad? Is dumping my boyfriend the only solution? Please help me!
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reader, Amy2007x  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 Im in the exact suituation! honest, i also have a bf who is amazing but my teacher is incredible i think he is the bestest person i have met, he is so funny and get this yeah its the same thing again, my teacher is old! and basically is gettin gry hairs a bit too, he isnt popular with students either as they see him as a pervert but i know he oculd never be one of them he is far too nice!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 January 2008):
 I don't think you will be happy if you dump your b/f. You need him for a clutch. As to your teacher , it is just a short phase in your life.It will not last as you already know the results.
It could be perhaps you are looking for a father figure b/f and your b/f is too young and your teacher is just right . You are having a combo burger because of your appetite.
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