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writes:ok i sort of have the a dilemma, my mom and "step" dad were secretly dating when i started high school, well i met this guy and he was so amazing! he was cute and knew just what to say to make me laugh but one noght my dad said he was bringing his son over for my mom and sister and myself to meet him... turns out its the guy ive been crushing on for months!! serious heartbreak, but then one day he texts me telling me that he seriously likes me... i knocked him off thinking he was joking, this went on for 4 1/2 years until one day he told me he loved me and he kissed me, it was like electricity it was amazing. when my parents found out they grounded me and took my car away along with everything else... is it wrong for me to like him even though we knew each other before our parents told us there secret???
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reader, celisse +, writes (10 September 2010):
celisse is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCerberus/Raphael- thank you for your opinion and it does help, and my dad {hes technically my stepdad but i conssider him to be my daddy} is ok with it he just doesnt want us makin out on the couch inm front of everybody but my mom is the one that is terribly upset about it, im not sure how to tell her how serious i am about my boyfriend, i love him very much and im so sure about him
tennisstar88- yes they are married but they werent married when we started liking each other, i didnt even know who he was until after my dad moved in for a couple of months. i just want to be happy but i dont want to be the child who dissapointed them....
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2010): That's a really difficult situation. Especially when you feel so attached to this guy and that there is so much chemistry! Talk to your mum...tell her honestly how you feel. That is if you and mum are okay with communication..
Really you need to talk to someone who has or is experiencing something similar
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 Personally, I don't see anything wrong with you feeling this way about him. I don't see anything wrong with him feeling that way about you. I can also see why your parents might be getting uncomfortable with this but if you are absolutely SURE that this is what you want then you will just have to make both your parents understand.
I hope that helps.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 September 2010):
 Are they engaged to be married, hence the "step" dad? You know that show Teen Mom where, Catelynn and Tyler are engaged but Tyler's dad and Catelynn's mom are either married or boyfriend/girlfriend and have a kid together. So there's nothing wrong with it, you're not blood related. However, if this man were to marry your mother it would make your relationship a little awkward. Or like you specified they don't like it..true they can't tell you who to date but you do live under their house so you do have to go by their rules. You knew who he was and his relation to your "step dad" and vice versa..so you could have stopped it right there but you didn't. Ultimately, you're going to have to do what your parents say so you can get your freedom back or keep your relationship a secret as best as you can. But how long could you keep that gig up?
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