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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello. I'm a little low on self-esteem at the moment. There's a woman at work who I thought was sending me indicators of interest so I asked her out via e-mail and was rejected. Since then she has barely made eye contact with me. This has gone on for months. We don't talk anymore - unless there's a strict business reason. And then I found out that she was already dating someone else - someone who works at the same company! Anyway, my question is what ultimately is the most attractive characteristic which women are looking for in a man? Is it confidence? If so, then what exactly is it that makes a man confident? Is it ambition? Is it knowledge? Is it experience? Is it all three? Is it notches on the bed-post? Thanks for any comments.
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reader, urbanking99 +, writes (17 January 2009):
Personally I think confidence is the biggest factor and it has taken me till I'm 45 before I believe I had the confidence and now I will have no fear in chatting to someone who I think looks like the type of woman I prefer. Everybody male and female like different things in their partners, lovers, friends etc.
I suggest you have a clear the air talks with this woman. I was in a similar position a few months ago. I was really into someone I worked with but she already had a partner, ultimately I was looking for sex because I haven't had sex for such a long time. NOT GOOD for the work place in case things go wrong especially as she is eeing someone else from the same compnay. We get on now and respect each other have a laugh and it is no longer discussed. People will talk behind your back at work and get great mileage from it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2009): Oh bless. She was being friendly and you misunderstood, and now she's really embarassed.
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