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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes: Is there a problem with being too loud during sex? My boyfriend and I don't have sex like we used to because he said I'm too loud and his roomates are home and we all live together. Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (14 November 2011):
Yes, if you live with other people it is a problem . Sexuality , and the way you express it, is natural... this does not mean it's public. It's a private thing, you don't want to slap the faces of everybody around you with it, ....and they have the right not to be slapped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011):
Sounds like a good problem. What he needs to do is take you elsewhere to satisfy each other's needs. I wish I was with a woman able to express yourself like you do. That's not bad at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): When anyone else is in the house, then yes being too loud is a bad thing. I had a flatmate and his girlfriend was loud whenever they had sex, and it made me uncomfortable. Nobody else wants to know what you two are doing, it's disrespectful. Try to curb how loud you are when they are home, or simply wait to have sex until they aren't there.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (14 November 2011):
Being loud during sex while your roommates are home is just rude. No one wants to hear your shrieking or moaning..it's just tactless.
If you MUST have sex while your roommates are home, cover your mouth with a pillow or turn on the TV in your room to drown out your moans.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (14 November 2011):
Well it usually makes everyone in the house uncomfortable and probably leads to them teasing him about it--which they are probably disrespecting you in a way if they're making fun of him about it.
I had a roommate who started dating a guy and I could hear them having sex in her room and it just made me HATE even going out to the kitchen or living room because I could hear them and it would gross me out.
So start keeping the noise level down, turn the music up, wait until they're gone, or find a place to live where there are no roommates.
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reader, ShiShisAdvice +, writes (14 November 2011):
Yep, first you should NEVER do it when they are around. And honestly, if you are, then your man truly doesn't respect YOU! Honey when a man truly loves you, he protects you and keeps you to himself! Never forget that. He is embarressed because they must be teasing him. You are also enticing his friends which will lead to a bad situation. He warned you, change, or I am sure he will drop you soon.
Experience. Guys want you to be hot in bed, but only for him.
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