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writes:I'm 13 years old and I have just started to go out with this boy. This is my first ever boyfriend. My overprotective dad says I can't have a boyfriend till I'm 15?!? But he knows I'm trustworthy and I've told my mum already and she said she is keeping quite and I will have to choose when to tell my dad. My dad is convinced boys at school will only use girls and then leave but there not ... And he doesn't understand. I love this boy with all my heart and the real question is .... How do I tell my dad without him shouting no in my face ?! Help ... Please :'( Reply to this Question
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (14 November 2011):
You would be a very wise and sensible girl to listen to your dad, even if you don't understand why he is telling you these things.
He is telling you because he knows what is best for you.
I do not agree your dad is "overprotective" in fact, what he is doing, is not unreasonable and is a sign of a loving, stable father.
Show your dad that you love and trust him by following what he says. You will thank him, when you are older.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): I am sorry and I know that you don't want to hear this, but your Dad has said no boyfriend's until your 15, and that is what the rules are and you have to abide by them. I know that at 13 you think you know better than your Dad does, but you don't. Your Mum shouldn't be keeping quiet about it either, she should be telling you to tell your Dad straight away, and making you face up to it. Your Dad is not going to be happy, he is going to be angry and will probably put an end to you and this boyfriend. You are 13 years old, you live under his roof, and you are underage and under your parents control. You may not think it is fair, and think that your Dad is over-protective, but that is his job, and you have to abide by the rules he and your Mum set for you whether you like them or not.
I can tell you from someone who had an over-protective Dad, that there is no way that you can tell him so he won't yell no in your face, because no matter what you say, the answer is going to be NO. Sorry that it's not what you want to hear, but that is how it is. Good Luck anyway.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (14 November 2011):
 Do you expect him to be happy about you going against the rules and dating a boy at 13?? Of course he's going to be mad and tell you "no"!
I know in your teen years you think your parents don't know what they're talking about, and that your situation is different. BELIEVE ME, they do know they're talking about. So if you dad says no boyfriends until 15, he means business. You live under his roof, you abide by his rules..until you move out.
So, you can tell your father one evening during dinner and see his reaction. But you already know what's coming. Good luck with that!
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