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writes: I just got out of a relationship 3 weeks ago. I was dating him for almost 10 months. I dated a loser who was a pathological liar.. and i fell in his trap. The only thing he did not lie about was his love for me. He fell in love with me, he took my virginity and I was truthful about my feelings towards him the whole time. It turns out that even though he was from a christian family he did terrible things. A few months ago he admitted doing percocet but he quit soon after he confessed to me. I broke up and got back with him because I felt bad for him. He would cry in front of me and tell me that it was his fault and he would beg for one more chance to fix it. After the final break up his brother had told me many things about my ex. For example, he helped his rich grandparents clean their house and found numerous hiding spots with money. He took large sums of it home depositing it in his bank account and said it was from a job he worked at!! His brother told me that all of the valuable jewlery including his mothers wedding ring went missing in their house. My ex claimed that he pawned all of" to pay off a drug dealer that he owed money to." He is still devastated by our breakup and has been trying to get me back. I know not to fall for him again, but he signed up for the military and made me promise him that i would spend his last 3 days with him before he gets shipped out.So far I have been enjoying the single life. I have been with one guy(nothing too serious) and I went on 3 dates with 3 separate people. I work with my mom as a receptionist at a hair salon. She has been cutting hair for 20 years now. While working yesterday I met a very attractive and nice guy who has been serving in the military for a year now. He is home for now but it probably is not for good. He works 2 jobs like me and is 18 like me. He seems to be very mature and has his life set out for him. Unlike my ex, he is a very stable person. I left work and he bought me a coffee, took me to my school to look for books for my classes, and treated for dinner. Today he is planning on coming over, hanging out for an hour, and bringing me to my school for cheerleading. I have to cheer at a basketball game but unfortunatley I have practice for an hour afer the game. He is willing to wait around at my school because he wants to take me to the movies afterwards. I am interested in him, but I feel as if I am getting pulled in many different directions. I enjoy going out to bars and house parties with the girls, but he doesnt really drink that much. I have many many guy friends, but he told me that he is not the jealous type.I have a very busy life working 2 part time jobs and I am on a cheerleading team. Right now I'm on break but when school starts I will be held responsible for 17 credits. Last semester I had a boyfriend and I did not do as well as I could have. This upcoming semester my goal is to focus on school and to do much better than I did last semester.When I had a boyfriend I would always have to dedicate my free time to him. But being single, I feel as if there are so many people to spend time with and I often find myself making promises that I cannot keep. Sometimes I ask myself.. "Is being in a relationship a bigger distraction than being single?" Maybe if I found the right guy I would not have to worry about it being a distraction?I would like to continute dating other people to see what is out there.. but this new guy has potential. What should I do?
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reader, angelbbabe7490 +, writes (9 January 2009):
angelbbabe7490 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you! yeah, i will make sure to make things clear. i don't want him getting the wrong idea. but i do enjoy his company.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 I think that yeah, you need a break from being in a serious relationship. Who says that you need to ditch this guy, though? I say, make it clear to him that you just got out of a stressful relationship and that you're taking a break from anything really serious. But, tell him that you really do like him a lot and would love it if you guys could still 'date'.
There was a time when people could just date without being exclusive. Maybe you can bring that back for a little while. It's a totally reasonable thing to ask and if he's not into it, then too bad for him. Tell him you'll give him a call when you're ready for something serious.
I think you do need some time to reconnect with your life, hang out with your friends, do cheerleading, work and school. Go on dates on Saturday. Prioritize yourself for awhile.
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reader, angelbbabe7490 +, writes (8 January 2009):
angelbbabe7490 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks hun. your response is hightly appreciated. thanks for taking the time to read my life long story.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (8 January 2009):
 That answer should come within you. Nobody can tell you what to do but yourself.
It may be too soon to take a decision but it seems that it's about to happen though.
No need to rush.
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