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writes:I now have a girlfriend in Ghana and we have been corresponding for about nine months. We have become very close. She is not very wealthy, so I have helped her out a bit. We have tried for her to come over to the UK but was turned down. I think I am planning to go over there next year. Is this too long do you think before meeting each other? Reply to this Question
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (13 August 2007):
 This was in the news today:
"Mr Gregor, a sheep farmer, set off to Mali on what he hoped would be an exotic adventure, during which he would not only meet his African bride but pocket a huge dowry in gold."
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"Mr Gregor was picked up at the airport by men claiming to be Natacha's relatives but who turned out to be gangsters. "
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/asia-pacific/6943616.stm
Please do not risk your safety.
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reader, Myrah  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 hey guy Good luck with your GF Over broad what you could do while you are waiting to go see her you could actually do some home work on her am sure you'll be able to find pps that know her who will be able to fill you in on who this girl is or you could talk to some of her friends or maybe her siblings it good for you in two ways you gt to know the environment you going to be exposed to before you gt there Kinda like setting the atmosphere. and two at least you will find out if she is really taking for a ride or if this is for real. at the same time truth be told watch your wallet...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): Tell her that you're going to visit her in the next month, you'll quickly see then if you're being scammed or not.
My guess is that she'll try and make an excuse so you can't come over.
I feel bad for you that you have been conned in to sending money to what is probably an organised gang.
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (7 August 2007):
If I wanted to get out of the country I would go on a holiday or move abroad. I would not fall for a stranger who I had never met, who lived somewhere I have no idea about and who in all probability wanted to move to England.
If I wanted to meet someone of a different culture in England, I would join one of many of the cultural groups that exist here in any major city, and meet people for real rather than Internet fantasies.
That's what I'd do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, but what if you want 2 meet someone who is not from your Country. I would prefer to meet someone with a different culture. To get out of the UK for a change. At least if you have a friend from a different country, it gives you more to communicate about, other than boring England! I am now going over there in November this year...I am looking forward to a change of scene.
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (5 August 2007):
You are bonkers. There are millions of women in the UK, who you could see today in real life, and instead you invent this fantasy with someone who lives halfway round the world who you plan to meet in 2008?
Hello?
Hello?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Me and my Ghanian gf are still communicating well. I hope to see her next year. One point, is that she is from "GHANA" and not "NIGERIA" as someone else pointed out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is, I have not seen her at all yet! We are still corresponding. I tried to invite her to the UK once but her visa was turned down. I am going to try and go over there next year ie. 2008.
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reader, harshbutfair +, writes (13 July 2007):
You are being taken to the cleaners... I can't believe that people are STILL sending money to fraudsters in Nigeria.
Let me give you a reality-check.
You won't be her only "boyfriend".
You won't be the only guy who is sending her money.
She has found a goldmine in you.
Nigeria's biggest industry is fraud, so before you lose any more money or thought on this girl, I strongly suggest you step back from the Internet and meet a real life British girl. There are millions here, you know and many of them are very nice!
(search for nigeria scam, nigeria girlfriend on google to find out more)
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (13 July 2007):
 A year is an awful long time. But if you two are able to make things work until then, what's the harm in waiting? Think of the moment where you will finally see eachother again after such a long stretch of time. That alone could be worth waiting for.
Speaking for myself; Me and my long distance girlfriend broke up after being a couple for 2 years. I would have waited any stretch of time just to see her again. Unfortunately, she got bored of the relationship, and told me it was too hard for her to cope with at this time. So, if you both feel strong, then go for it, but there is always the fear that one of you will give up after coming so far, and believe me; That hurts like hell.
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reader, love-him +, writes (12 July 2007):
 Hi babe,
If this relationship, has a lot of effort put into it then i dont see why it wont work. There are the obvious complications of the fact you live far away, there would be certain times you had to leave each other.. The year is a bit long, but you have waited so far.. Whats stopping you waiting another year?..
I hope i helped & good luck.. =)
Mail me if you would like to talk x
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