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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i love my boyfriend of one year very much and i find him very sexually attractive, but even after all this time he doesn't really believe me when I compliment him in that area. he laughs and shrugs off my compliments. like if i say i find his broad chest sexy he says says its not sexy, its fat. he is very insecure about his weight too and while i think hes gorgeus he just cant seem to accept it. im understanding of his insecurity but it sort of hurts that he cant trust that i fancy him, i dont like him constantly putting himself down but nothing i seem to do or say makes any difference. i just want him to feel desireable and totally comfortable with me. how can i make him see that looks arent important to me and even if they were i find him hot anyway?
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reader, perky  +, writes (12 July 2007):
 hey chick i hav that prob 2 i hate the way i look but my girlfriend says im great an good lookin and everything but i say no im not i know it seems bad of him to do it but it just seems he maybe had a bad past with him self and it made him hate hisself im not sure but the best thing that i like is to be told im good lookin not fit or sumthing coz like most of u girls love to be called beautiful not sxc or anything like that.also i think to make him see that u love him for wat he is, is to hint to him sumtimes like for example i say to my girl mates its not bout how much make up u wear or wat clothes u wear 2 u can never hide ur real beauty and u could say hey u can fink wat u like of how i fink u look but i know in my heart that everyone is beautiful in there own way and i think ur amazin just compliments like that not to say o ur sxc or sumthing its just sum girls fink we lads dont c things like sum of ur girls do no offence to u girls but they think that coz of there past wiv them ope i have helped u out email me if u need to and let me know how u get on best wishes chris x x x x
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (12 July 2007):
 You know, I have a friend like that. I find him gorgeous but when I compliment him he tells me to stop. If your guy keeps waving off your compliments then dont say them as much. Build him up in other areas. If he makes something or does an excellent job in whatever he does, compliment him in that area. Guys enjoy when they are respected and told they do a good job on things so start there. When he sees that you arent focusing on his physical looks but as in him and his talents that will make him happy. Who knows maybe down the line you can say that you want to start walking and he ant to do that with you and thats a way he can work out and feel better about himself.
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