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writes:About a year ago, this girl moved from LA and we've been friends since. We met at a church which we attend very so often. She is absolutly amazing. She has great personality, she's very cute and has an amazing body. The thing is, she lives too far away from me. I would've asked her out a year ago but we only see each other 3 to 4 times a month. Any advice?
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reader, Arlo  +, writes (7 October 2008):
 Guys,I work on cruise ships and the last time I saw my partner was over two months ago! She works on a different ship to me so even maintaining basic communications is difficult due to time zone differences (depending on where the ships are in the world), long working hours and social pressures onboard. I live in the UK (when not at sea) and my girlfriend lives in the USA, so even when we get time off the ships together, there is yet more work to arrange time together!If could I see my girlfriend ONCE a month, I would be in heaven! It IS all relative to your own circumstances.Bottom line is that if it is right for both of you, then it will just BE. There is no textbook answer here; every persons circumstances are different.I personally have 100% faith and trust in my partner simply because I love her unquestioningly. If your partner feels the same way, then you will ALWAYS find a way around these issues and cherish the special time you DO get when you are both together.However hard it is to broach the subject, if the relationship means anything, then you both have to be completely open, honest and up front about both your feelings AND your expectations, and to DISCUSS these with each other, preferably face to face.It is important too, to not make too many long term plans when you are facing uncertainty with regards to where you will be, say, 6 months down the line (as is the case with both of us). Making plans that don't materialise can be a huge disappointment and upsetting too.Take each day as it comes and enjoy each moment as it occurs!Remember: the course of true love runs exactly like that i.e. true. It is patient, kind and enduring if it is meant to be.Good luck!
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reader, anon642 +, writes (3 October 2008):
 First of all, does she know how you feel about her?If so, what is her thoughts on relationship where you only physically see each other 3/4 times a month.Personally, i would love to see my boyfriend 3/4 times a month, i like in the UK and he lives in dubai!Yet i still see and speak to him everyday through MSN video calling.Therefore, if you both are willing to commit to a relationship like this, forget the distance between you, you'll learn to appreciate each other more when you do see one another, it makes it more special.Its simple, talk to her :)Good luck!
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reader, alwaysndforever +, writes (29 September 2008):
i disagree- as long as you have trust..and i mean real trust that you dont doubt and are comfortable with thant a long distance relationship can be awesome. my boyfriend of 11 months is in college and it was so hard when he left but i never worry about him. of course he drinks nd parties but i trust him 100 percent - and when i do see him its so special because weve been away from each other for a bit, if you want it to work it totally will
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