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writes:Is a 7.5 year age difference a big deal?I met a guy who is currently 26 (27 in December) and I'm about to turn 19 in less than a week. He's a very, very nice guy and a bit shy... I was actually introduced to him by one of my best friends who is 27. She had made comments asking what I thought of him and what not, eventually he and I started a relationship. She thinks its totally fine and her and her husband both think that we're wonderful together.My friends think he's great but sometimes when I've had friends/acquaintances ask about his age they get kind of shocked...My parents don't know him as of yet either, I'm really nervous about introducing them because of the reactions I got from some other people. I know that they would love him (he works as a structural designer at a company and has his own company, makes good money, is very kind and definitely a good person), but I'm just nervous to tell them that he's a bit older than me.What do you all think? Is this a big gap? Is it wrong? When we're together we don't even think of it... it feels right... I'm hoping that maybe its an immaturity thing in my friends and that people who are more grown up (i.e. my parents) won't see this as that big of a gap.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2010): No problem whatsoever.
In your case the age is just a number. Sure some people will have reactions to it initially, but everything will smooth over with time if you stay together. I dated my ex-gf for 5 years... when we met I was 23, and she was 16. The relationship was great overall, and sure we had some issues to contend with in the beginning, such as my friends giving me a hard time, or her parents/older brothers being wary of me, but after the first year all was well. We're still friendly, still in contact, and neither of us has ever regretted it.
Go for it.
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reader, stellaforstar  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 Not at all. The problem some relationships have in the long run when one person is older is finding things in common but if you were introduced through a mutual friend you clearly have some things in common straight away. And anyway, 27 is still really young (my bf is 24 and thinks he's "old" but acts like a 12 year old when hes excited lol..) and so.. go for it!
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reader, ChristineAvril +, writes (4 April 2010):
 That age gap is NOTHING!
Follow your heart and ignore silly, jealous people who envy your happiness. If he suits you and you suit him, what else matters?
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