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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Well.. ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and i love him more than anything. ive recently started a new job where the majority of the girls are either just married, engagaged or pregnant so all the office talk is about weddings and babies. In the last few weeks its got me thinking more and more about how much i want my own baby. I know its a big responsibility, and my boyfriend isnt really sure what he wants, he wouldnt plan on having a kid right now but he admits he'd enjoy it, and he'd like being a dad. the thing is, im only 19 and hes 20. my mum has made it clear she doesnt want me to have any kids yet but its a really strong urge!! I just want a baby in my belly, i want something i can love and look after and spoil and watch grow up and be proud of. The more i listen to the office talk the more i want one.Does anybody think this is a good idea? Does anyone have any of their own experience with having a child at a young age? I know theres girls aged 13 and 15 on here gettin pregnant but im an adult with a decent job but still living at home, im just worried im too young. its constantly on my mind!!
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reader, Felisha Marie  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 Well Darlin, it aint really the age, it's how prepared you are. In your best interest because she's been there your mother may be right. Never the less, you are an adult and you make your own decisions. But, in the best interest of your child you need to be fully prepared financially, mentally, physically. Make a stable environment for the baby. If you are sstill living at home, and your mom has expressed her discontent towards you having a child, I would respect that while under her roof.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (28 August 2009):
 Hi,
Listen to your mother, she seems to be the only one thinking logically here.
You havent even moved out of home and you are talking about having babies. Good grief, change jobs and hang out with people your own age. 19 year old girls I know usually talk about going out clubbing, hanging out with friends, enjoying themselves, not changing nappies and staying up all night cradling screaming babies. That's the life they are talking about.
Also listen to your boyfriend, he wants to be a dad, but take the hint, not now. You have so much time, change jobs and enjoy your youth, you only get one.
all the best.
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