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anonymous
writes:I have been married for 8 years. We have hit the point where I think some spice in the sex department would be nice. My wife is pretty conservative when it comes to sex, but I also know she can really get into it sometimes. I also know, it is a standing joke with us, that she has always had an attraction to black guys. She has never been with one. I tease her about it, and she blushes and changes the subject. How can I start approaching her with the idea of maybe a 3some with a black guy, or maybe even just watching her with one? any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2010): how do we spice things up? and honestly, it is not that she is not good enough. i think she is sexy. i just think it would be hot to see another man enjoy her and let her have some fun as well. a part of me tells me she may consider it, just by the way she acts when I tease her about black guys. last thing i want to do is cause problems.
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reader, :)31215  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 i agree with Honeypie. If my man asked me for a threesome i'd be upset and pissed off, thinking "why am i not good enough"
in my eyes, a thresome is just as good as cheating. Just cause your partner knows about it doesnt change it for me. Luckily, my boyfriend thinks that too, so we're on the same page :)
Just be careful..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): Doing that is a horrible idea and you will regret it forever. A marriage is meant for one COUPLE...you know why? Cause three's a crowd.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 December 2010):
 Adding a 3 person to your sex life is RARELY a good idea, it might seem HOT as far as fantasies go, but in reality it causes more drama then excitement.
I think most women takes it as an insult when asked to be in a 3-some, as in they are not good enough, so I would be cautious.
Personally, if my husband asked me, I'd properly get pretty pissed off. There are SO many other ways to spice up your sex life without adding MORE people to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): You seem to be leaping from one extreme to another. Conservative sex to a threesome. My guess is she'll be pretty horrified. Try spicing things up in regular ways or you'll risk making her feel uncomfortable. Threesomes anyway are a risky move for a stable couple - best left as fantasy.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 Be careful. The saying says : once you try black you never go back..:) You don't want to end up with more than you bargained for....
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