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writes:Hey everybody. So, I recently had a drunken hookup with a guy I met in one of my classes. Before this thing happened, I could tell by the way we interacted with each other, he was somewhat interested...which probably explains how we ended up hooking up last weekend. I've seen him in class already and we act pretty normal around each other. We talk in class (however, there's only so much you can say in class) BUT I really don't think he's interested enough. He never texts me first and he doesn't continue the conversation if my text doesn't completely warrant a response. If he were interested, wouldn't he be more than happy to continue talking to me, ask me to hang out, etc.? I've been trying to come up with excuses, like maybe he's just preoccupied with his upcoming big exam this weekend. Or maybe he's just that type of texter...one who never initiates, who doesn't respond unnecessarily and so forth. I'm a little tired of being the first one to text. Any thoughts? Should I just let it go or what? Thanks~
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2012): OP here.
Just to clarify, I did not have sex with him. It was just hardcore making out...thank god I was on my period or else I don't know what I would've done. But I agree with you guys. I don't think he's interested enough. Truthfully, I don't really know him that well to like him that much either. I just get attached easily. I'm just going to act normal around him, maybe if I get the chance, I'll be a little more flirty. But I won't initiate again for now and see how everything plays out.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (3 October 2012):
Some people dont like texting. Try having lunch together and talking, thats a much better way of getting to know someone. If he doesnt want lunch then you have your answer, he just wanted the sex.
Generally if you want to get to know someone better it usually works best if you have the lunch before the sex!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 October 2012):
 Sorry OP, I agree with Sage.
He was " somewhat " interested , meaning that he was interested enough for the drunken hook up, and MAYBE for further drunken hook ups at other parties if nothing better comes up, (which is the reason why he has not cut contact with you and replies your texts if you initiate - you could come handy some other time ) but not enough to have anything meaningful in between.
Don't feel bad, bad judgement call, it happens . But make wiser choices in future :)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (3 October 2012):
 There are two key phrases in your submittal:
1. "...he was somewhat interested...." and,
2. "...I've been trying to come up with excuses...."
The "long and short of it" is that he was interested JUST ENOGH to have s*x with you..... AND, you will never come up with a suitable excuse for WHY a guy would mis-treat (or: "use") you in such a manner....
Yes.... just "let it go" and consider this a hurtful lesson.... AND stay away from guys who seem "somewhat" interested...
Good luck.... (and study hard!)....
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2012): You are so right about thinking that he doesn't feel the same way as you do. 'coz if he a guy likes a girl he will never ever let you text him first at all times. In fact if you did text him once, he will take advantage of that one time text you've done and it will be enough for him to make the first move to keep in touch with you, since he did not, I'm sorry but he really don't like you the same way you do for him.Now what? That's fine, its not the end of the world. What you need to do, Try to act as normal as you can around him and pretend that your cool about it and you have forgotten about yesterday. Next time you see him, just strike your best smile at him and say hi and then walk away. Make sure when you do this, you look your best.Get a new haircut or new make up or someting that will enhance your beauty and most of all improve your self confidence. Don't allow him to see your affected at all.Trust me, it will do wonders, from silent treatment to at least friendly hi no more awkward between you and him..
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