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writes:I recently met a woman who I'm not sure I should be dating. Here are some facts about us. She is beyond a masters degree, I have a HS diploma. She is highly intelectual, very smart. I am not the brightest bulb in the box. She is Jewish, I am Catholic, that seems to be a none issue between us. We enjoy being together and date every weekend. We're both looking for long term relationships. We don't have all that much in common, but have a few things we share interest in. Her smarts can make me feel inferior, but she never makes me feel insecure about it or demeans me for my lack of education. She sometimes speaks above my level of intelect, but not purposely. She is a very kind and loving woman. I don't know if it's possible to have a serious relationship with the huge gap in education and intelect. Do you?
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reader, Flyguymyeye  +, writes (13 July 2010):
You're making an issue where there is none, if anything your insecurity will do more damage than your lack of qualifications.
Also qualifications don't equal intelligence, you could be a genius and not taken an academic route.
She likes you for you, that should tell you that you are worth something. Enjoy and relax.
Ps caring guy, has your mrs got any fit equally loaded friends?!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 July 2010):
You think that's something? I'm next to broke while my girlfriend is a Director of a firm who I cannot name. Her earnings a year last year plus bonus were nearly twenty times my father's wage last year. Yet not once has she ever brought it up, and the only time it gets to me is when I want to spoil her and it's a little difficult to. She was worried I'd feel bad, and didn't even tell me for three months what she really did. By which time, I was well hooked anyway because she's a fabulous woman anyway and I actually don't care about her money. It doesn't bother me at all that she's more successful or smarter (which she is, really, as she has a degree while I don't). We just get on really well, love each other, and that's all that matters.
The point is, your intellect is not bothering this woman. And it's needlessly bothering you. She's a good women, and like all women she just wants a decent guy in her life to share all this with. You're a good guy. You've worked hard, and so what if you don't have a degree? I don't either. I'm just a plumber who's on the verge of being broke. That's all I am. But I'm a good guy, which is why my girlfriend wants me.
You're focusing on something that really doesn't matter at all. She just wants you. That's all. If she wanted someone with a degree, she would have gone for someone with a degree. I think what needs to happen is that both of you need to be doing more together so you do find yourselves having more in common. But believe me, this woman just wants you as you are. If she wanted a man with a degree, she'd have gone for one. All she really wants is a good guy to be with. So be a good guy, that's all, and don't think that education is going to matter. It doesn't to her.
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