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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I usually have great sex. But lately, he's been a little insecure about himself because he can't go longer than 7-10 minutes. How do you handle a situation where a man's ego has been crushed and you're lost for a solution??
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reader, Andy00  +, writes (29 July 2007):
 I too was insecure about how long I lasted at Sex with my former girlfriend. Differnce being, we couldn't have sex that often, due to long distance. So, whenever we'd finish, I'd immediately say something like "Damn it, that just wasn't long enough, was it? I'm annoyed at that!" And it would bug me for most of the day. We must be a real pain, right?
My advice, just continue to support him. Tell him how great it was, over-exaggerate it, if you must. The important thing is making it clear that you're satisfied. If he can see that you're satisfied, this will help him feel better about it too. He will most likely improve over time, and he will be comfortable with his performance.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT +, writes (29 July 2007):
 Hi there babes,
Your both very young, this has obviously upset him greatly after all it is his manhood here, you just need to be caring, understanding and patient, he will get over it darling its all in his head now as he is constantly worrying about it....
Tell him you love and care about him and it doesn't matter you fell in love with him, if it does persist for a long period of time then I would suggest he makes an appointment with the doctor....like I said just give him plenty of love and time, he is probably worrying more about pleasing you and then feels useless when its all over after about 10 minutes bless him...he may be scared you will eventually look else where let him know he is in a very secure relationship with you slowly build up his ego and bless ya for caring about him he is a lucky manxx
Good luck babes,
Love Donna xx
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