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writes:I'm not sure how to go about this the right way. I love my boyfriend who I've been dating since January and we've both been good to each other. As August rolled around, I met another man who I developed a crush on. It's a little awkward because we all work for the same company: My boyfriend used to be my boss, but was transfered to another store so our relationship could be legit and no one get fired. The other man is technically above me in ranks, but not my boss cause he runs another store. This other guy and I met up one night after closing to talk and we kissed. Just kissing and that's all. I kept telling him I couldn't cheat on my man, no matter how much I want to. And before, he always respected my boyfriend and our relationship. Should I just shake it off and act like nothing happened? Or should I be honest with my man and tell him what happened?
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reader, Illithid +, writes (4 October 2009):
 Kissing is generally considered to be cheating.
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reader, yellowmarshmallow  +, writes (3 October 2009):
totally agree with the previous post. If you really loved him, or he was the right person for you you wouldnt have kissed this other guy. Being honest is always the best thing, you have your conscience clear and no one can ever say anything about you. Plus, i think also if your currrent boyfriend really loves you he would get really jealous, maybe go a bit crazy but then make it back with you - and if it happens, breaking up is always a good situation to get to know the other side of the person. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2009): I agree with 'CaringGuy'. Doesnt matter if you dont have sex with that person, as long as you kissed him and he wasnt your boyfriend then it was cheating. I think the best thing to do would be to tell your boyfriend about it. Think about how differently things would go if he found out through someone else. Its better to say the truth than keep it in because once it comes out from someone else its gunna suck even more. Good luck.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (3 October 2009):
 Um kissing is cheating. A kiss can be just as intimate as any other sexual act. The fact you put a stop to it means you actually have a conscience. I think you have two options here really.You can eithera) come clean with your current partner that you kissed this other guy, but be aware of the consiquences. This could potentially put your job and this other guys job at risk. Prepare to have your relationship to be on rocky roads and if he will have you back, a long journey to regain his trust. For starters you can just forget about seeing this other guy again. Your partner will see him as an automatic threat. This is really the option if you want to clear your conscience and possibly want to base your relationship on honesty.b) Keep your mouth shut. If you feel you can live with his burden of guilt then by all means, it is your choice, stay quiet. This will means you can try and forget about the incident with this other guy and maintain a friendship, but be aware this is a bad idea as lines have been crossed and temptation normally always comes back to rear its ugly head. The bonuses to this is that your partner will not want to proabably run this guy into the ground, but the con is you have and will be continuing a lie to your partner.The choice is yours really. Over al you should probably avoid this other guy. He may have seemed to have respect for you and your partners relationship in the past, but by kissing you, he ultimately is saying he could care less.HonningKanin
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 October 2009):
If you want your relationship to be built upon honesty, you have to tell your boyfriend. Also, if they both work for the same company, there's a high chance that your boyfriend will find out. The truth is, form what you've said, I'm not sure your boyfriend is the guy for you anyway. If he was, you wouldn't have kissed this other guy. Think carefully about whether your boyfriens is really the guy you want. And a passionate kiss is cheating, as much as if you'd had sex with him.
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