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*alal Scarbrough
writes:Hi,My inlaws especially the mother and her daughter hate me more than anything, they're always talking bad about me behind my back, I found out through some e-mails the mother inlaw had sent to my husband's best friend and his wife , also she sent e-mails to her sister picking on me, this has been going on for almost two years now,before even getting married.Do I like them now or want to do anything with them or even remember them? 100% NO. I have tried many times to make things work out but how can you expect them work when one side is only putting the effort in? Since my husband got deployed to Iraq, they've been making things up and tell him and all I can think about as a reason for their actions is they're planning to break up a part, his sister is so jealous of me and hate me so much, she even got herself pregnant when she heard my husband and I were planing to do so, she always called me names and if I answered, she'd run to her mom and of course the mother would accuse me of asking for fights, I am reaching to apoint that I starting hating them, I mean the mother and her daughter, I love kids and wanted to be a mother since day one I got married but they always made comments about me having kids and wait and wait and I believed that my husband listened to them regarding the kids subject, when I tell him how I feel about them, he gets mad at me and does not like it, so many times I get so upset with him because of them and how he does not defent me or stand up for me and want to ask to split because now I started having health issues, Anxiety and depression and staying a way from good healthy life.I am so tired of them creating problems, since my husband left to Iraq, I decided to move to my sister's in another state far a way from them and guess what? They still e-mail my husband and make up stories and lies and of course he'd ask me, it just hurts so bad because I love my husband so so much, I waited 26 years to find this one real love in my life and now I am not happy with him because of what his mom and sister say and do. I don't even want to have kids with him because I simply don't want them to get close to my house in the future, not even for the holiday and IF, accidentally I have kids, I am planning to do any possible thing to make sure they won't see my kids or even talk to them. My mother inlaw hates WHOEVER is NOT WHITE and since I am from a different country, different culture and of course as she says, I am from her enemy country, it makes it impossible to get better. She made she made it clear she and her daughter hate me to death. My father inlaw is an amazing good guy, he always was there with me when I needed to talk to someone. Can anyone PLEASE help me here. I am losing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): This is a question that had many replies on dearcupid and some of this may also help you and your situation.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-in-laws-hate-me-and-my-husband.html
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reader, Bill23 +, writes (15 February 2009):
I think your In Laws are idiots they need to stop what they are doing. Your husband needs to be braver and stand by you and protect you like any real man would. If my mother and sister was to talk about my wife or do the things they did to you, I would have nip that thing in the bud right there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): My heart goes out to you! People are so ignorant and biggotted! It's so unfair!
If your husband loves you, he should be protected you from their poison! He needs to step up and stand by his woman! I understand that you love him, but it most cases, when you marry a person, you also are marrying the family in a sense. It will be difficult, but he needs to set them staight! If he is not willing to do that, you need to consider other options, such as separating. The first thing to do is communicate with your husband exactly how you are feeling and that it is affecting your health. Tell him you need him to take a stand on this!
How can he not see that his family is abusing you????
It's a shame people can't mind thier own business!
I wish you luck and hope your husband comes home soon!
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