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writes:I am 20 years old and am thinking about acting on incestuous thoughts with one of my cousins as long as it is consensual. I personally do not consider it terribly wrong, just incredibly hot. II do not want to marry her; I just want to try to start a sexual relationship with her. I am just wondering if anyone has ideas on how to bring it up with her...should I just tell her and get to the point?...should I try to create a situation in which it is apparent that feel for her?...Please don't post if you think its wrong. I really only want to hear from people who are neutral to or support my feelings.
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reader, GirlLeastLikelyTo  +, writes (10 January 2009):
Are you sure she feels the same about you? Make sure you are or she'll think it's pretty weird.
If you do suggest something to her, make her feel at ease and tell her you won't do anything she isn't comfortable with.
And make sure you use a condom!!
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reader, NITRAM BLUE  +, writes (4 January 2009):
 I have the same feelings like what you are feeling right now. I have a 2nd cousin, 39 y.o., she had a hysterectomy a few years back and she is a bomb shell.
Heck with her hysterectomy, we can have sex 7/24 and there will be no worries of any in-bred birth defects. But this reason is not justifiable.
Biblical verses justifying family marriages between Israelites, as ordered by God to keep Israel pure, is not enough for you to have sex with a relative. It belongs solely to the Israelites, and not even true for the Israelis. Therefore, such could not be a sound basis "for doing" your cousin.
My cousin and I go out frequently, we have some fun and I even slept over at her place, a few times, very remote from everyone. We sleep in the same room, she is on the bed and I slept on a mat beside her bed. With the lights out, we could have made the nights longer. But being alone with her with her physical attractiveness is not a license for me "to make love" to her.
I like her very much. No, I love her very much. But everything is platonic and sexless. Not that I wouldn't like to have sex with her. Definitely, I would and it would be fetishly erotic, wouldn't it? But I mustn't.
But of course, we have to have our sensibilities straight. To hell with the law about incest lets go to the present day norms observed. Love has no bounderies but norms sets limits. Norms are observed by rational people and that separates us from the animals.
Sex for animals is for propagation of its species. Sex for us, humans, is to express love and lust but the expression must conform with the existing norms. A norm simply ask the question - is it normal?
I suffer because I have to follow a norm. It is better to suffer the pains of non expression of love than to agonize over the consequences of what a forbidden love might bring. I love my cousin more than any person I have previously known. But to have sex with her, guilt will follow - maybe it will not be mine, maybe it will be hers.
Sex is inferior than love. You can love a person and feel good all the time, afterwards, which is untrue with sex with a cousin.
If both of you (you and your cousin) are ready to suffer any unforseen and known consequences - gossip within your community, birth defects because of inbreeding, conflict between family members because of the acts - go ahead. Love is free. Love is after all, something the angels fear to thread.
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