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*lwayznd4eva116
writes:well i spoke about this boy before. me and my male best friend of two years just made it official yesterday. i really like him, hes my ideal bf. hes smart, funny, sweet, caring, and everything that this other guy isnt. i stoppd talking to this other guy about 3 weeks ago. ill admit, he didnt treat me right, but after over a year, a pregnacy, and soo much more, i started catching feelings for him. i actually felt like i loved him. and now that were not talking, i think about him even more. i miss him everyday and sometimes cry when i think about how much i miss him. as i said, i really like my bf, but im not too sure if now is the right time to get together. i dnt want to start a relationship with him, but still have somebody else on my mind. its not fair to my bf. so i dnt know what to do. should i tell my bf how i feel? is it better to take some time before starting a relationship? my friends think this guy is good for me and that ill be fine as time goes by..what do ya'll think?
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reader, alwayznd4eva116 +, writes (18 November 2009):
alwayznd4eva116 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanksz guys. and yeah, kliciouss, i know i should tell him now that we just got together. i definetly dont want to hurt him because hes a good guy. and just yesterday, i seen my ex, and he flirted a little with me, then kissed me. i was afraid that was gunna happen, especially because my exs bday is on sunday. i feel bad, because i know my bf wouldnt do anything like that, and for me to have cheated on him already, not even a month into the relationship, shows that im definetly not over my ex. and that maybe it is best i stay out of a realtionship with anyone until im sure i can faithfully be in one
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): i think your gut instinct will tell you but i wud take time out u have been tru a fair bit and if you and your best friend is meant for eachother let it happen dont rush it put yourself in his position wud u like if he got with you and was thinking of someone else no idont think you wud
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reader, kliciouss +, writes (12 November 2009):
 you are a smart girl, at least you KNOW that you aren't being fair to your new bf. some girls just overlap their relationships like nothing. that is being selfish. since your new bf is your best friend, he would understand you better than anyone else. talk to him. tell him exactly what is on your mind. truth hurts sometimes, but the truth needs to be done in this situation. what if in the long-run you leave your current bf for the ex, and he finds out you still liked him this whole time.... that would hurt him so much more. you wouldn't want to hurt your best friend like that would you? if you talk to him about it now early on in the relationship, at least he knows EXACTLY where your coming from. then he would either accept you and compromise your feelings or let it go. 3 weeks is a very short amount of time to get over someone. i'm sure you were so over the last guy that you needed immediate comfort after.. this is why you resorted to your male best friend, the next closest male to you. it's going to hurt for a while. you should let the pain fade away instead of passing it on to your new bf. i wish you luck.
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