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writes:My best friend and I once had a very strange relationship. I came out to him and confessed all my feelings for him one night and he did the same to my suprise. So we had about a 4 month relationship behind his GFs back. 2 years later, we are still best friends but it's taboo to talk about our relationship w/ eachother since we are both "straight". I really want to talk to him about it but when I try to ask him about it, he "doesn't remember". I still love him. Should I just move on? We'd still be friends.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (25 April 2012):
 okay so now he talks about hit, BUT does he still want it or is it in the past? you need to find out and that involves asking him directly. it may end up with him shooting you down but at least you would have conclusive proof.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both. We were hanging out in town today when we ran into his ex gf which was pretty common. We had some small talk but, anyway earlier my friend and I were playing xbox and I told him I felt bad about her since we cheated on her, and casually brought up our past. He said that he told her about our secret the day after they broke up, which was shortly after we broke it off. And I quote: "I'm gay with you and she'd just have to get the f**k over it."
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): I think you should move on. If he say that he "doesn't remember" then maybe he doesn't want to remember. He may of been just experimenting. So don't ponder on the situation and move on because like you said you would still be friends and that's better than nothing.
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reader, traeumerin242 +, writes (24 April 2012):
Move on. You're in high school. It's important that you keep the friendship, but don't insist on having a relationship with him. If he "doesn't remember" having a relationship with you for four months, one of two things is up. Either he didn't think it was as big of a deal as you do, or he doesn't want to remember it.If he doesn't want to remember it, there are probably feelings of shame. It could be shame that he cheated on his girlfriend. It also could be that he was in a gay relationship when he isn't gay. High school is a time that many people explore their sexuality, so he may have been trying to figure out what his orientation actually is. Many times, we think we have romantic feelings for someone when it is really just admiration.Especially if your relationship was just a time where he was exploring his sexuality, it's likely that your relationship wasn't a big deal to him. It may even be that he didn't truly think you two were dating since he also had a girlfriend at the time (as much of a girlfriend as middle school boys have, anyway).Focus on your own sexuality. You said you're "straight". Does this mean you are honestly straight, or are you still figuring out whether you have feelings for guys? Either way, let the relationship with your best friend go, and focus on just being friends with him.
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