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anonymous
writes: I'm 15 years old. I'm in love with my 5th cousin and my parents made us break up when we first started dating because they thought it was nasty and horrid to date your cousins. So, I had to break up with him. Later on, we still talked on the phone and we decided that this was completely unfair and we have been secretly dating for almost a year. I've been caught, i think, twice and i've lost a lot of trust from my parents. The only way we get to see each other is: We both go to the same church and he lives just across the hill from me and I can walk up my hill and he can meet me up there. I sit with him alot at church and quite a bit of my family go to the same church and it's very hard not to hold his hand and lean on him during church so, that's the reason I keep getting caught. Sometimes I just get a little carefree. But, he means the world to me and I'd do anything for him. My parents are VERY strict and are very serious about things like this. I really don't want to sneak around or lie to them anymore. I need to tell my mom and come clean but I don't know how to do it and i'm afraid that I will disappoint her and get her to yell at me again. Any suggestions.?
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reader, soon567 +, writes (25 November 2010):
i agree with the rest on here, its just to far apart for anyone to make a fuss over.
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reader, C. Grant +, writes (25 November 2010):
For this person to be your fifth cousin, the closest relative you would have in common would be a great great great great grandparent. Most of us would have no idea we shared a relative that far back. Are you sure you're using the correct term?
You've been defying your parents, so it's reasonable to expect that they're going to be angry. My suggestion would be to point out that (1) you are coming clean on your own, and (2) you have no control over your heart.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (24 November 2010):
5th cousin is hardly a relative, but I'm not your parent. Still, I doubt there would be anything genetically wrong if things got to that stage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): Isn't everyone pretty much a 5th cousin of everyone else? I dont see the big deal, as long as you are beyond second cousins.
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