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writes:I have been friends with a woman for close to ten years. She was going out with my buddy for 8/9 years and they seperated amicably about 10 months ago. I began to spend a lot of time with her and we have bcome very close and confide in each other a lot. About a month ago we were out celebrating my birthday, just me and her, and during a lull in the conversation a strange feeling came over me.I think I had just fallen for her.I have met her twice since and the feeling has intensified. But I am confused because this feeling is not really sexual in nature. Rather I want her to be happy no matter what. But I also want to be around her as well. I love her company.So we were on a date type thing last night and we had a great time. However she also told me that she was moving to another city to find work. And that she intends on exploring a relationship with a male friend of hers who lives there.I'm finding this hard to deal with. Is it possible to be completely in love with someone in a platonic way? Or am I kidding myself?Should I tell her I love her and risk losing our friendship?Confused and Hurt. Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 If she's told you she's planning on exploring something with someone, that's your chance to step up. If you're going to do it, the time is now before she's off the market again.
You can love a friend. I know I love some of my friends. It can be strictly platonic, but I don't get that vibe from you.
I can be pretty certain that if you tell her you've developed feelings for her, she won't be upset. She may not know how to react, or she may have been waiting for you to finally come clean about your feelings. Whatever the case, I doubt you won't lose a friend, even if she doesn't feel the same.
I think you should tell her. Hopefully she's not moving too far away.
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