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writes:The problem is that my fiancee and I plan on getting married next year,but I don't want to marry the guy if I'm going to live with his dad till death do us part. I love him,he's a great guy but I can't deal with his family situation anymore I want my privacy.So here's the story:For the past five years,I've been living with my in-laws in there home.I was living there for free and helped around the house. They are nice people and I'm grateful that they helped me out with my two children. When I was living there, my fiancee and I were planning to buy a house, instead of an apartment.We were fixing our credits,paying our dues until... last year in August, their house was foreclosed so we were forced to move out.My fiancee and I searched for an apartment for days before we had to leave their home. I even told him if he was going to let his parents move in with us and he said "no". He made me believe him that his parents weren't going to live with us anymore. Once we found a nice temporary apartment (we still want to buy a home) we moved all of our stuff and celebrated that we were finally going to be on our own.(Mind you, my father in law and mother in law are separated, because he cheated on her and has a baby with another lady). I thought he was going to leave with the other lady. My fiancee thought both his parents were going to live together. His mother found a place for herself and well his dad ohh ohh, guess who comes knocking at our place one month later.His dad moved in with usOkay, I understand he has no where to go and I should give him time to find a place, yet I don't see progress. He even wanted his son to buy a house so we can all live happily ever after, together. My fiancée and I had argued over this everyday. He tells me he is going to leave this x amount of days, and he doesn't. Now I have thoughts on my fiancée too, I feel like he already knew his dad was going to move in with us, because the day his dad came to ask to live with us, he already had all his stuff packed. His mother told me that his son already told him he could stay with us. He claims his mother is lying so I don't know who to believe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2011): Wow, the people have spoken... and so well said too!
You didn't live rent free... you're paying for it now... kind of expensive huh?
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reader, svf  +, writes (18 March 2011):
 I'm gobsmacked - I have never freeloaded like you in my entire life! It was ok for you to splurge off the parents for 5 years? You're a real role model for your children, you know that? You've taught them how to use people and then dump them, except in this case, it's not people - it's family members! Watch out for karma...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): He helped you out and you cannot return the favor? How selfish is that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2011): How shallow this person is? Man I can't beleive it, how materialistic this country has become, or should I say always been.
Looking at Parents as burden happens only in this country and no where else, while they end up paying for Social security to take care of someone else's old parent, when they are forced
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reader, almc  +, writes (17 March 2011):
You lived with his family, rent free for you and your two children. so maybe if you paid rent, he would of never lost his house. He was there and gave you so much help and now he needs a bit of help, and you want to kick him out, that's his father, don't make him kick him out that's not right. To pick his lover or family.. Take a break and get out the house. But you should be nicer to this guy that helped you out for years, plus your children!!!
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (17 March 2011):
 Well the reality is when you needed a roof over yours and your childrens head his family was there to help. In the long run you all are going to be one family and should be able to count on one another for support, help, and advise. Families are a blessing. If his father needs time and a place to stay can't you find it in your heart to help him out. You were staying rent free at his place, I wonder if you offer to help him financially when the foreclosure paper kept piling up. Its sad to know that now that you have the upper hand your not willing to sacrifice a little bit and help him out.
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