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writes:This guy cancelled our date yesterday, and i have an update on the situation. I sent him a private message last night saying that it was a shame that we couldn't meet, and that we could meet again sometime if he wanted, and i said i hoped he liked his new home. He sent me a private message back today giving me his address, and then he said "shame on me for not knowing my pay days. sorry (my name. don't run off with the circus in the meantime. lol!". Do you think he's trying to hint that he wants me to go to his house?. I thought he might be since he said yesterday that he would be all alone in his new home. I'm quite tempted to go to his house, as it could be relaxing having a chat there, and obviously that doesn't cost anything, but i know it might not be safe since i don't know him very well. I can't really invite him to my place as i live with my mum and brother, and i guess it's better if we have privacy. If i had my own place, i would have invited him , and that would have been better, as, if there was a problem, i could tell him to leave. Do you think he would have given me his address though if he wasn't safe to be around ?. I guess i could either give one of my family members his address so that they know where i am, or they could even drop me off there, so they know exactly where the house is if there is any problem. He lives in the same town as me, so it shouldn't take them too long to get there if there is a problem. I could also suggest having a coffee with him or lunch or looking around the shops in town ( not necessarily buying anything from the shops ). I have been to guys houses before when i haven't known them that well, and yes they have made moves on me before, but when i have asked them to stop , they have. I know it's a risk though. I'm glad he has got back to me though and that he apologised. What did he mean by " don't run off with the circus in the meantime " though ?. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (21 January 2012):
 Ease off, there, girl! Give him a chance to chase YOU. You are obviously interested in him, but being too available and going to his house may signal to him that you are either a) desperate or b) easy. Even if you have told guys to stop and they respect that, they may still get the impression that you do that a lot, even if you don't.
If he wanted you at his house, he'd have asked you over, I think. If he's just moved, it could be a disaster zone.
I'd text back something a bit light and something that signals you're still interested, but only if he makes an effort. He's in the doghouse, as he cancelled your date.
"Which act would you come to see when I do run off with the circus?" "Actually, I'm going to become a fortune teller." Something light and funny that shows you are willing to keep the conversation going.
Wait for HIM to make the effort to organize the date. I think being too eager puts many guys off. As long as you are maintaining contact, he knows you are at least partially interested.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (20 January 2012):
 I guess he means don't disappear on him, and that he's still interested. I would text him this evening and ask if you can come over or if he wants to catch a meal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2012): I think what he knows is how much you'd really like to see him but he's putting you on the back burner. Maybe he met someone else or isn't all that interested.
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