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writes: Well, I will make this as short as possible. But, the problem is, it has been going on my whole life. I have always had really good relationships and all. I think it might be me... Let me explain. Every relationship I have gotten into has been long term and only between me and the other person. And well, I always end up being the one who has no feelings for the other person. And it always ends up to where they are completely devoted and in love with me. And they can also see themselves spending the rest of their lives with me. And well, I can honestly say I have never felt that way, and end up making reason for breaking the relationship. It's just so lonely and I know it has to be something wrong with me, right? I need to have some ideas on what to do. Please help me... Shay Reply to this Question
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reader, wildblueroze +, writes (27 May 2005):
The right person hasnt came around yet, shoot, don't stay in a relationship if you aren't IN LOVE. That is a very rare, sweet emotion. The right person is out there, you two just haven't met yet.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (26 May 2005):
 You need to spend some time on your own working out what exactly it is that you want from a relationship. Write it all down. Perhaps you want excitement, a challenge. Maybe they have to be more intelligent than they have been, I don't know.It seems as if you get bored after a while and you need to find out why that is. Perhaps you also rush into relationships which can be a recipe for disaster. If you don't really feel too much for them, then you shouldn't get too involved from the start, it isn't fair on them or you.Think carefully about what you really want and then try to find that person. This may not be easy and I'm not saying you should aim for perfection but obviously the ones you have been with before aren't doing enough for you.Perhaps they have something in common. You need to go for something different.Don't get involved too quick next time. Test out the waters a bit more. Try internet dating. Above all, have fun looking once you know the type of partner you really want.Good luck.
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reader, alison +, writes (26 May 2005):
First of all, there is definitely nothing wrong with you. Many people don't fall in love for years and some never do. I think that if you don't feel anything for a bloke then you shouldn't go out with him. It will just make things harder on both of you. If you do go out with someone and want to end the relationship, tell them the truth. It will probably hurt them less than a lie.Don't try and rush yourself into a relationship whenever you can because if you are always taken, you might not find the perfect man for you. if you like someone then go for it but if you don't like them, don't waste your time. Dont worry as you will fall in love with the perfect man but it may take time.good luck and I hope this helps.
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reader, ourhearttoheart +, writes (26 May 2005):
Shay, this answer is inside you. Are you comfortable with the reasons that the relationships ended? Would you of wanted to spend the rest of your life with any particular one of those former partners? One can truly be happy single. Sharing happiness with others, is a lot of the times better than alone. Doesn't mean every connection has to be a potential partner for life. Enjoy one's own company and bring that enjoyment to others. When it happens, "WOW"! Its worth the wait. Till then....be true to yourself!
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reader, chapwiti +, writes (26 May 2005):
I think you have a problem. In the first place you will not be in love but rather infatuted with the opposite sex and as time lapses you are no longer mesmerised and hence you opt out. My advice to you is take your time and look for something inward that you cannot see with your eyes.Take time to know your partner.
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reader, fechon +, writes (26 May 2005):
Are you one of those girls who tolerate everything about your guy? You never fight or express disagreement or disappointment? That would make you a very easy person to get along with, but it could make you lose your good feelings for the guy. Just write down things about the guy that bothers you, see if it will help get you started to understanding this. Just because you don't express something doesn't mean it doesn't exist, and it could be knawing at you all along.
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