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writes:Hi thereI like a girl and we are kind of dating. We hang out and talk for hours on text even. The only thing I was wondering was that I always have to text her in order to start conversations. It's about 10 days since I know her. She always reply my texts and even waits for me to call off the day when we are hanging out. So I know she likes me.Kindly suggest ways what can I do to make sure she texts me as well. Not just me always trying to initiate conversations. Any suggestions please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2013): Oh boy you really don't understand women.
Sometimes we do things to test you, if you don't pass the test, then we would think diffrently about you, like your serious or something.
If you really like her, then go for it.
she always respond to you right? base on your story, she always does.
So it means, she must have like you.
Because if I were her, and I don't like you,
I will not bother to reply your messages, the fact that she's responding, its a good sign.
How old are you? 15?
My goodness, No Guts, No Glory!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2013): You don't seem to be getting the point. You don't "wait." You go about your normal life and do the things you do.You're too anxious. In adult relationships, we allow people to reach out of their own free-will. We are calm and show grace; even when we have the urge to fidget. Please allow manhood to settle down the eager little-boy in you. Give her time to decide how interested she is. If she picks up signs of desperation, like I see in your post; you are going to scare her off. It's only a few days!Desperate translates into creepy. Creepy is a red-flag.Now is when you allow things to flow, and you don't get too anxious and start creating all sorts of fantasies of a relationship. You show you have it together; and you're not some awkward weirdo who never met a woman before.You are going to obsess. Women have a built-in instinct for male-creepiness. They dart away like spooked deer, and they don't look back. Even worse, they relegate you to the "friend-zone," and tell you you're sweet. Calm down.
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reader, Hnk +, writes (15 December 2013):
Hnk is verified as being by the original poster of the question well, it's about two days and I haven't heard from her after I told her she can contact me freely when she wants to?
how long should I wait?
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reader, Hnk +, writes (15 December 2013):
Hnk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone for your answers. I really appreciate them. Well, I have left the ball in her court by saying,contact me when she wants to talk(she replied certainly :) ) and yet she hasn't tried to contact me yet after almost 1.5 days.
How long should I wait?
Also when we do talk,we talk for hours and its me who initiates the contact. What do I make out of this? I just don't want to come too willing and would like to see some of her efforts as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2013): Hmmm sounds familiar. well, be happy that girl your dating is a decent one. She's not desperate neither acting crazy.
She's the kind of girl who does have class.
The thing is, your just dating, she's not your gf yet.
Since she's not your gf yet, she's not required to contact you at all.
Like I myself, at the beginning of dating stage, I never ever initiate to text or call or ask out a guy. never, ever.
Just like you, it made them crazy.
Honestly, I enjoyed making them crazy, BUT it all changed when things became serious and they put a label who I am into their life, that's the time I changed.
I changed from cold to warm and super sweet gf.
Maybe that's what she's waiting from you. She might not say it, but you'll never know unless you ask her.
Well i wish you luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2013): It is very early in her getting to know you. Ten days is not a long time, and she thinks you might prefer to be the one pursuing her.
If you want her to be the first, just tell her that you want her to feel free to be the first. You would like that very much.
Then be careful what you wish for; because you just might get it!!! And then some!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 December 2013):
 the only thing you can do is just WAIT for her to contact you but you should let her know that you would LIKE her to do so.
In other words, she's not a mind reader and girls are taught to let the man take the lead....
so you tell her the next time you are together "hey i really like you and enjoy our time together, feel FREE to contact me at any time just to chat"
and then you have to wait... her not initiating may not mean anything... she may be old school and think that boys have to pursue and she has to wait.
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