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writes:I am in love with a married man and his wife knew about us. His son knows too but did not believe it is true.My relationship with this married man is still on going till this date and we could not stop this relationship. We have been together for 7 yrs now and the relationship has gone through ups and downs but despite of so many attempts of discontinuing the relationship the more we get stronger, the more we become patient, the more we try to understand each other, the more we change ourselves to make the relationship work.We made a promise that we belong to each other and we will not leave each other...How can a love be so true this way? I don't know what to believe anymore when he doesn't want to leave his wife and family.Can a love like this be true or am I just fooling myself that it is true?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2013): As a woman who used to be a player girl and was cheating o. Her first husband, i can tell you that he can love you both , but his decinition of love is different from yours, i guess. When i was cheating on my 1st husband, my rule was to bave at least 2 guys as lovers at the same time. This way i was not going to fall for them, because i was loving them both. When i was leaving this guy, immidisty i was missing the other guy. Well, i was like this ubtil i met a player guy, we challenged and at the end we be ame first friends and later we fell in love with each other. I even divorced my husband for him. I was exclusive after that, which has been about 15 years now. So, even as a girl, it is possible to love more than one person. Not every body believes in being exclusive. This does not make him a bad person. He definitely cares for you, but he might not fill the definition of caring and love among most of people( or maybe bow most of people pretend they belive).
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reader, DV1  +, writes (12 July 2013):
 Honest answer? You're kidding yourself. Move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2013): Leave him and get on with your own life and find someone single. Stop taking other womens men. Its your own fault. Of course he loves all this he has 2 women and he will be loving all the attention from you both. I wouldnt give him the satisfaction any longer your just being used and you and his wife both put up with it.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (22 June 2013):
 It probably is true love...but it's also never likely to be what you want it to be.
Married men (some)do meet and fall in love with other women, you only need to look at history throughout the ages to see that...Men and Mistresses, they have always existed and they always will....but....
It's very rare that a man leaves his wife and children and even those who do leave, a fair few go back to the bosom of their family because that is what they know and are familiar with.
Any woman who chooses to be a Mistress, chooses to be second best and mostly lonely. All his sweet words and promises are forgotten the minute he gets out of your bed and into hers...and when he returns to you, all the promises he made to her are lost too!!
Whether you are kidding yourself or not depends if you can handle the truth!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2013): If he loved you - he would be with you and only you and make you the number one priority. But why should he? You make it easy for him to have two women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2013): If he truly wanted to be with you, he'd leave her. People get divorced, even people with kids, and even when there isn't cheating involved. It happens. If he wanted you as more than a mistress, he would take the steps to make that happen. The fact that he hasn't speaks volumes about where you stand with him.
You have wasted seven years of your life catering to this guy. Are you prepared to spend another seven years being second best? Ten years? Twenty? If you don't want to be a mistress for the rest of your life (or as long as you hold this man's interest) you may as well cut your losses and end contact with him now. Best of luck.
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