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*ani152
writes:My boyfriend is abroad..and would remain so for another year. We have made out 3-4 times in person. And now we maintain touch through video chats, emails, sms etc. We continue our physical bonding also by doing it together either on voice or cam. Its very comfortable since we are so in love. The problem comes when I am masturbating and he is speaking to me. Instead of concentrating on the way he is arousing me...my mind goes into dirty talking...as if there is some voice talking dirty to me...very very dirty...and that makes me get to orgasm like anything. Sometimes its my boyfriend only whom I visualise doing it to me vey wildly while talking dirty. If I control my thoughts and listen to what my boyfriend is really saying on chat then I get tired doing it and sometimes I dont even get it, though I do get all wet. It seems I have become habituated to those dirty talks while I stimulate myself. I feel embarrassed. I dont want to develop this habit. I want to attain it like I should, i.e., with him...totally. And not like a perverted wild desperate person. I feel very bad about it and can't tell him also. Dont know how he would feel. I can't muster up to tell him to adopt this way also...talking dirty...what if he tries but isn't able to do? This thing is eating my brains please help me out... I feel really bad about it...........
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reader, vani152 +, writes (4 November 2011):
vani152 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI need to update on this.
I am getting better at all the stuff in my head when we are making out on cam.. he is still abroad..
But now sometimes I get through only when I imagine my ex bf doing it to me and talking dirty to me.
That makes me feel worse than just the dirty talk going on in my head..
Is it normal to imagine your ex.. actually he was more verbal during the act. It gets me going. But I feel so bad about my current bf the love of my life..
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reader, soul83  +, writes (3 January 2011):
By the title of the question I began to worry. Do not be so concerned! It's entirely natural and I think your partner will understand. He may want to participate in the dirty talking a lot more with you if he knows it is helping you.
I applaud you for sticking by him in the long distance relationship.LDR's are very difficult to deal with. You know, imagination is a perfectly normal part of a healtrhy sexual relationship. My partner and I sometimes imagine we are different people or in a different environment! I hope that things work out for you and you get to be reunited with your partner again soon.
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