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writes:Hi!OK, a little backstory: he is my classmate in this tertiary course we're in, both of us being in second year (I didn't know him from 1st 'cause this is a newly merged programme). The first semester I didn't really see much of him as we were assigned to separate groups, but I recall my first impression of him was that he was an interesting guy.This semester we've been put in the same group for internship, so I've had plenty of opportunities to talk to him and we've become pretty good friends. So far so good, right? Well, not exactly- I keep getting this sense that he 'likes' me, but at the same time he treats me like one of the guys! D: To illustrate:1. I was absent from school one day, and he texted me asking me where I was. Turns out he actually asked our mutual group mate for my number, despite the fact that either she or our group leader could have contacted me.2. He would start conversations with me, usually throwing out a random philosophical question and thus prompting a prolonged discussion...and this is when our other group mates are around. When we sit together alone, he talks a little less and just plugs in his headphones and works quietly next to me.3. He has a dry sense of humour, and usually pokes fun at our classmates (the barbs are mutual) but he never really takes jabs at me; when I jab at him, though, he reacts with a sort of playful violence e.g. tossing a paper ball at me, etc.4. He once said that I'm the first person he's met that understands him the most, yet at the same time he doesn't really talk about himself that much. He doesn't communicate with me outside of school either, only the occasional tweet that I would start first.5. His body language tends to be relaxed when we talk (leaning back, pretty open as far as I can tell), but it's not the type that shows male-female interest, more of 'buddies'.6. We're all not very touchy-feely, but I remember one incident when I wore a tank top and instead of tapping me on the shoulder to get my attention, he sort of patted my upper arm instead. Another time he rested his entire arm across my shoulders, but it was just for an instant and it was to pass something along to someone on my other side. Apart from that, though, zip on the casual touching.Well, what do you think, DearCupid readers? Mixed signals, or am I just reading too much into his behaviour? I'm pretty fond of him myself, but it's not to the point that I'd be devastated if I've been reading him wrong. Any and all advice and input would be greatly appreciated :)p.s. Sorry for the uber-long post, as you can tell I've been turning this over in my head quite a bit :P
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reader, moon river  +, writes (18 November 2011):
 ask him! or you can never ever ever know!
you can guess forever but if you want to know for sure then just muster up the courage and go ask him, remember confidence is sexy
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 November 2011):
 Well it is clear that he really likes you as a person, as for more I am just not sure to be honest. He might just think of you as a close friend. It is a hard one to call. But sometimes the best relationships start with a good friendship. If you want more well then show him you are interested. Playfully flirt with him, touch him when talking to him. Ask him out for a drink. Just go for it. You have nothing to lose.
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