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writes: Ok so me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 7 months now, yes were both teens and of course I expect to get a lot of answers saying I shouldn't worry it will end anyways. I love this girl to death. She all I ever think about and when I'm with her I'm truly happy. Now to get the true grasp of things you'll need to know the true, long story. Me and my girlfriend met about three years ago in a school club. She acted like she hated me and we argued a lot and I guess I may have liked her. Well at the end of that year I asked her out and we had our little summer relationship but at the end she got scared and said she wasn't sure if she was comfortable being comfortable with a long term relationship. I was very sad and spent the next four months in agonizing pain from the break up and then, out of the blue, she flirts with me. I was so happy I quickly talked things over with her and we started going out again. She said she couldn't live with out me and I believed it. Well after three month's things were looking grim. She wasn't talking to me and pay'd me little to no attention. After a while I just had to end things because it was getting to depressing to be in my life. Now once again I was alone and miserable, maybe a bit less than before but still sad. A month into the break up I get a random email from her saying she still wants to be friends. We responded to each others emails for a while, I wanted to get back together so much but she kept me at bay. Well when summer started again she gave me the choice, to go out again or to stop everything. Well of course I said yes and seven months later here we are. The only thing that is bugging me today is that I don't seem to get the love from her that I used to. And in no way do I mean sex. I can (however) on certain occasions break through what seems to be a shell and get her to show great affection but soon its covered up again. I am almost certain she loves me and I may just be making everything up in my head trying to make my own problem but I need to know if its me, or her. And what I can do to get her to go head over heels for me because I would really like... one day... to marry her.Thanks for reading this awfully long thing and I really hope for a response.
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reader, Rjj1902 +, writes (18 January 2011):
Rjj1902 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really appreciate your responses. I'm almost sure she loves me, I mean we've been through a lot together how could we last through everything without having something? I forgot to mention something and I'm sure it will have some importance. during the first breakup she went out with another guy, I'm sure she was trying to get over me. Well he abused her and made her do things she didn't want to although she ended it before things could get too bad. But of course the damage was already done one; to her trust in guys. Second to her comfort being attached to someone. I'm not sure if that perhaps has a play in the current situation or not but if I was to say i would say she love's me. I often see myself as annoying to be around and even my friends (who love me anyways) say that. I'm good at sharing my feelings partially from the way my mother raised me, etc. So we've gotten into some pretty deep talks. Marriage, (not now but maybe one day) feelings, romance, etc. She's even confessed to me that she thinks she's not good enough for me and to that I have to say that I am not what she deserves, she deserves better than me and I will always strive to be a better person. Anyways I hope you will shed some light on the situation better due to this new info. And i'll tell you were in high school but due to my computer skills I know how bad the internet can be so I will not give out my age. Thank'sRjj1902
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (18 January 2011):
 Firstly you cannot force people to fall in love with you.
Its either there or it isnt.
Teenage girls are very hormonal,once girls start getting thier periods their moods alter all the time.
She does seem to be on and off with her feelings for you.
Perhaps her feelings are not the same as yours.
Ensure you are both on the same page one sided love relationships seldom work.
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reader, Abbii_xxx  +, writes (18 January 2011):
 awww babe how old actually are you and her??
well this sounds like a bit of a hard situation but you sounds like a really nice boy and anyone would be lucky to have such a loving boyfriend like you :)
2bh girls can be very confusing and im sure it probly was hurting her just as much thinking about being apart from you and she was probly jus unsure on how you felt about her and the whole situation.
but on the down low you need to understand on whats best for you explain to her that you cant go on like this and if she loves you to show her love.
even though emotional love is sooo soooo important in a relationship the physical stuff is also just as big a part of the relationship, even if you dont mean sex.
but 2bh darling if you hoenstly belive in your heart and your mind that this relationship is worth fighting for and you realy do mean that amazing word (love) for everything it does mean that make this relationship work if it doesnt work out then honeslty it just wasnt ment to be.
Every thing happens for a reason
dont forget that
i hope this has helped
and please keep in touch and let me know how it goes
i wish you all the luck and happiness in the world
Abby xxx
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