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writes:Hi, I'm in an LDR and my boyfriend is going into first year university next year at a specialized school for people who share his talents and interests.We are very different, the whole "opposites attract" idea. I am worried he will find a girl more like him, who is able to understand his niche interests better, the ones I cant relate too at all.I havent mentioned any of this to him, though he has told me he wants to be together as much as I do.How can I be more confident, and overcome the unease/trust issues that distance brings? I dont want to lose him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2011): If he's with another girl when your not around, then it was never ment to be. It would happen sooner or later.
Its best if you trust yourself.
Take care.
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reader, ironman777 +, writes (26 June 2011):
OP - I know you love him and he loves you, but in my opinion I would really give serious thought to staying in a relationship with him. I know when I went to uni in Auckland, your life changes and you do meet so many new and different people. Its almost inevitable that he will at least make new friends and some of them will be woman.Can you handle him having fun with even female friends even if he says nothing is going on? The trust issue is the biggest one in a LDR, you need to trust him 100% or this will cause you so much hurt.I would say on your part to develop more self confidence is actually to develop your own social life more becuase you wont be able to rely upon your boyfriend and if you do stay together, view it more casually - he's giving up a lot of intimacy by going to uni without you.This may not be what you want to hear, but in my heart this is what I think you need to do.
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (26 June 2011):
it is very important that you learn to trust him because without trust a relationship can,t go anywhere has he ever given you any reasons not to trust him? the whole distance thing is going to be hard for both of you but in time you will adjust to it
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reader, a_maldita  +, writes (26 June 2011):
 We can't avoid it since he will be going far away there is always possibilities he will meet girls more like him. What is important is you trust him and believe that he would never cheats on you. Honestly my bf and I are miles apart since last year and I have been dealing with stress since then. The fact that I don't know what his doing or who he is with makes me think differently... Just assure yourself that whatever happens you will be ready for anything! Good luck
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