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anonymous
writes:i'm worried that my boy friend is having the same relationship over again. by boyfriend is a few years older than me, and a little more experienced in the dating world. I know I'm the youngest person he's dated, too.he's my first out of high school relationship, and has already lasted longer than any other I've had although that's only 5 months and we aren't physically involved yet. He's happy to let me set the pace and respects my boundaries. I haven't had sex before, and I only want to in the context of a committed relationship. I asked him yesterday about his past relationships and STD risk, I had cause to think about it. one of the things he told me was that all his previous sexual partners have been virgins. pretty much strait away I can see a pattern here that i fit into. what I'm worried about is that he's having the same type of relationship over an over again, that he's not growing in this area, and that we are untimely doomed to a set expiry date. I know you can't really give me your opinion on him, you don't know him, but do you think my fears are at all valid or invalid?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks fishdish. i've got some more to think about. i'm not sure what i'm going to do yet, but i won't do anything too fast.
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 i think they're valid, to an extent..how many partners establishes a pattern, is it 2 or is it 10? how long has he stuck around with these virgins before ditching them, i mean the appeal of the virgin thing would be the de-virginizing so if you learn that he loves em then leaves them soon after then I would definitely consider slowing things down even further until you feel comfortable enough that he is loyal and won't do that to you.
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