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writes:Hello, recently my boyfriend of 2 years told me that he was thinking about a threesome, but only for special occasions like my birthdays. He says he loves the thought of me being pleasured.He wants another man instead of a woman. He wants someone he can trust that isn't around all of the time to be the one. our love life is great the way it is now even he agrees. He's just wanting to try it and if we don't like it we won't do it again. Yes we love each other and we a faithful to each other. I have though about doing the threesome its not that I'm uncomfortable about it. Its just the thought that it might ruin what we have, and that I feel like if I do that I am being unfaithful to him even though he is the one that's wanting it. I have only had sex with 3 men in my life and one of them I was married to. Anyways my question is should I go ahead and try it or should I turn the offer down and continue what we already do. I've never had a threesome and I am somewhat nervous of the outcome. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have talked about this for awhile and he's not the jealous type he never has been. He told me a couple days ago when we was talking about it that he would never blame me or take anything out on me because it was his idea. He would never hold it against me. He's not pressuring me to do it. He says its up to me that we don't have to do it if I don't feel comfortable with it. Our relationship is very
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): Sounds instinctively to me like a bad idea- it seems more than anything else although you say you're comfortable with it but you don't really want to do you? i know a few people who are into this sort also swinging and it's a way of life for them, i think that you're either into it or opposed to it and it might be damaging to you could end up feeling confused, inadequate all sorts of things like the last reader said.
it's a big step so talk to him about it and if he doesn't respect your opinion put your warning light on- he's trouble. i don't know you but i don't think you sound suited to it ultimately it's your preogative, i would advise against it xx
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 March 2010):
You can be sure that this will go wrong. Threesomes nearly always do. One gets jealous. Or it could be that he really wants a threesome with a woman and is saying to you that you can have the man now, so he can have a woman later. My advice is to not go down this path.
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reader, kayla20 +, writes (16 March 2010):
 you need to think about the stability of your relationship before going ahead with this it might be what your partner wants at the moment but he could completely change his mind half way through having a threesome and blame you for it which could affect your relationship have you told your boyfriend that your worried itl affect your relationship if you go ahead with it?you need to have a proper talk about this and make sure its what you both want before going ahead with it if your unsure i wouldnt go ahead personally because it might be for all or nothing
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