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30-35,
*othish
writes:I am dating this guy that i really like, but he is four years older than me. I'm not sure that the age difference should be a problem, but i'm worried that he will expect me to have sex with him. When i was younger, i was raped by my cousin, and because of that, i can feel a bit insecure about sex. I want to have sex when i'm ready, but what do i say if he asks me and i'm not ready?
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reader, lotsofgiggles123  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 just say your not ready im sure he will under stand :)
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reader, salvation +, writes (15 April 2008):
Just tell him the truth. He should respect your feelings and not force you or put any pressure you. You dont have to go into detail but it might help him understand your feelings only do that if your comfortable with telling him tho. Pm me if ya need me.
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reader, vsnod +, writes (15 April 2008):
 Just tell him you are not ready. You don't even have to go into all the detail of why, he should respect you enough to not pressure you for sex no matter what your reasons for wanting to wait. If he pressures you after that, then he's a creep and it's time to leave him.
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reader, jlove +, writes (15 April 2008):
 As mush as im sure you'd hate to hear it, he's just too old for you. im a guy and i know from hearing stories from friends about younger girls. 9 times out of 10, all older guys want is sex. and i might be wrong about this one, but i think he will eventually start pressuring you. very few guys, epiecially in their early 20's, grow serious feelings for younger girls. and the few that do, only date younger girls because they get to call the shots. this is why i despise guys that date younger girls.
dont give it up if you aren't ready. and if he pressures you too much, kick his old ass to the curb.
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