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writes:today had to be the worst day of my life. heres what happened. im still in highschool and my girlfriend is in college. today she drove 45 minutes in terrible traffic to get me from school and take me to her dorm room. i was on rock hard from the time i walked into her room to the time i tried to stick it in. as soon as i did this, it died. i was soooo embarrased and disappointed. i wanted to just disappear. she had drove all this way for nothing. the worst part about it is this isn't the first time this has happened to me. it happened a while ago with another girl. but i thought that was just a bad day. then it ALMOST happeded last week with the girl im with now. i thought it was because i was stressed and had other things on my mind. then TODAY happeded. and the mood was JUST right and i didn't have a care in the world. i just couldn't keep it hard (or get it back up for that matter)and i dont know why. I NEED HELP!!!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Vinny92 +, writes (8 January 2011):
 maybe you might wanna try some viagra because it helps i mean ive tries it once and it helped me and this has happend to me lots of time i could be in the mood and it be hard as a rock and then all of a sudden it go soft as a pillow. so just try to take some viagra or eat some kiwi it has something in it tht helps your body and use KY his and yours it helps alot also i use it all the time.hope your problem gets better..
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reader, scarlettABiGAiiL  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Babes.. Dont Worrii Yeah iit happened to thiis boy ii was goiing to doiit wiith on sunday.. ii was pretty embarrsed but he wont speak to me no more. ii really liike hiim aswell. Could you giive me some advice iin what ii shoudld do. I thiink that you should speak to your partner iim sure that she will understand and iif not try some viagra or somethiing babes Loveage xx
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reader, madflash +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Dude, dude, dude... You are getting yourself all worked up... or down, in this case... over nothing. You need to stay cool when this happens. You need to be able to laugh about it.
Yes, it's embarrassing. Yes, the girl you were with is, more than likely, laughing her fool ass off at you with all her friends and Yes, it will probably happen again.
(It's in your head now, so just accept it. You are doomed to having a flacid, useless member whenever you really need it most. It's like someone saying, "Whatever you do don't think of a hammer." And then, BAM! There's a hammer in your head. And this one's bludgeoning your penis into weak and wormy pulp!)
But you should have stayed kool about it. First off, you should have blamed it on her--not outwardly! That would make you an ass. But you should have blamed her inwardly, where it counts. Any experienced woman worth her weight as a woman could have MADE you respond. She didn't have the savvy to do it.
Still, you should have remained kool.
Now here's how I've dealt with Mr. Softy when he's made a guest appearance, which, unfortunately, has happened on a few occasions.
Reaction #1 THE FAKE TEASE: especially useful with first time sex and/or judgmental bitches that u don't want to seem vulnerable to or anything less than 'bad boy'.
THE FAKE TEASE Hiding your floppy friend from sight tell her that no matter what she says or does she is not seeing or getting a penis until you're good and ready to give it to her. Then go down on her, but no matter how she begs, pleads or cojoles, continue devouring her woman-hood. Eventually, Mr. Limpy wakes up to join in the fun.
That has worked for me twice.
Reaction #2 THE CHALLENGE: Good for girls with big egos.
THE CHALLENGE; Look in her eyes and say, "This has happened to me a couple times before. Maybe my body's just not in the mood for sex when it happens--I don't know--but I want you, and if you really want me... what are you going to do about it? (Then smile)
This only worked once, but BOY what a payoff! The other time ended with the girl saying, "Oh, well, I'm going shopping."
But, in the end, just stay kool, dude. If you sweat it you're all done!
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (16 April 2008):
 we're not machines buddy.
ahah " i'm not some piece of meat"
ok enough comedy.
ok. so you Can get hard. so thats not the issue.
Usually , a bad day, stress. bad mood.. it happens.
shit we ain't machines.
and hell there must have been something on your mind or you're just stressing about preforming.
anything major happen in your life lately? any source of background stress?
If. and at your age i don't suggest you do this. and i mean that seriously but i knwo you people go to dumb lenghts, Viagra is pricey and usually gives you a splitting head ache afterwards. there is a herbal verson called Golden Root does the same just no side effects. ( read the packet)
However. i don't recommend it. i think you need ot sit down and talk with this girl and talk thigns out with her. see whats on your mind. what goes through your mind when you think of having sex with ehr. the very moment it happens whats on your mind.
there has to be a source for this.
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