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anonymous
writes:I have a problem that is probably in my head. A couple months ago I met a girl I never gave any thought until two months ago when I realized she had a crush on me. I gave her my number and she was texting me all the time and she seemed like she was giving thought about what she was texting. After a couple weeks after I asked her out she wasn't texting as much and when we text she seems like she isn't into it because she keeps on giving me one word replies but when I see her at school or any other place she seems excited to see me. I'm scared that I'm starting to get boring to her. I should say that i told her that i loved her but i never kissed her yet.Is this problem in my head or is it something I should with about? I really like this girl.P.S. the last relationship I was in had this same thing happen to me except she broke up with me and said I got boring.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (8 January 2015):
Text dating is extremely boring. So you should be texting "when can we meet up?" Go out to the movies, The park, beach, whatever...do something other than text and meet at school.
As CMMP said "If you don't make an effort you'll have things like this happen more often."
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reader, CMMP +, writes (7 January 2015):
A good life lesson is to be the best "you" you can be and if that's not good enough for someone else don't be hurt, just blame it on incompatibility because that's all it is.
When I say "Be the best "you"" I mean don't be lazy. Falling in love and keeping that live strong takes effort. You need to go on dates, spend quality time together, and do other things to keep the relationship (and yourself) interesting.
If you don't make an effort you'll have things like this happen more often. But if you make an effort you'll keep that spark alive and be a fun boyfriend.
If you make an effort and still can't make things work then you are with the wrong person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you. the girl in the last relationship and the one in this relationship are two different girls so I guess I shouldn't worry as much. And again thanks for the advice.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (6 January 2015):
 It sounds like you're afraid because someone has specifically told you that you are boring. The definition of "boring" will change for each person. You may want to examine the type of person she is what type you are and accordingly, what lead her to see you as boring. Her opinion does not need to change you. You will find a girl who is pleased with your level of activity and conversation. If I'm honest, she sounds like an immature girl, who wasn't ready to be steady with someone and craved more excitements. In mature, adult relationships, people don't end things with a one word excuse.
You would also want to base her feelings more heavily based on how she acts with you in person than how she is via text message. The thing about texting is that people can do it while doing almost anything - eating, talking, working, studying, pooping, and sadly, driving etc. etc.
the situations she is in while texting vary too greatly for you to judge her tone.
The only thing I will advise you on regarding possibly being boring, is to be and sound as act interested in what your partner is saying. Other than that, stay true to yourself my friend!
~SY
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (6 January 2015):
Well if you really like her and think you are getting boring, you will have to try and keep things interesting.
Before that, you say she is always excited to see you. So, have you considered that she might just be caught up but still makes it a point to text you? Maybe that's why the short replies, just to let you know she has seen them.
As for boring-
First, you do need to take it a lil slow. When i say interesting, you don't have to go out of your way to do different things. Just something occasional, out of the blue like a coffee or a walk or things depending on what kind of a girl she is.
Also creating curiosity always helps. Maybe some days you can take your time to message her. But mostly, be yourself. You really want someone to like you for who you are :)
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